Casual Clothes, Constant Criticism - Man Struggles with His Inlaws' Snide Jokes

Dressing is a form of self-expression and a way to showcase one's personality. For many, it's an integral part of their lifestyle and identity.

Some people find solace in adhering to traditional norms, while others use fashion as a means to express their individuality. Clothing choices can significantly impact one's confidence and comfort level.

When people feel good about what they're wearing, they're more likely to feel confident and prepared to take on the world. On the other hand, being subjected to constant criticism or scrutiny about one's attire can be detrimental to one's self-esteem.

In relationships, differences in style or fashion preferences can sometimes cause tension. When one partner's family consistently criticizes the other's clothing choices, it can create feelings of resentment and frustration, just like we see in today's story.

The OP and his wife have been married for three years, but her family's constant comments about his clothing choices have become a significant source of tension in their relationship. Despite OP's attempts to brush off the jokes and snide remarks, the comments have taken a toll on his self-esteem.

He's tried ignoring them, laughing them off, and addressing them politely, but nothing seems to work. OP's wife doesn't seem to understand the issue, thinking her family is just being playful.

Read on to find out what the OP finally decided to do.

The OP kicks off his story...

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It's become a pattern, and their comments have started to bother the OP

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OP's wife thinks he's overreacting and causing unnecessary drama by avoiding her family

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I can't tell if me refusing to go to parties with my wife's family is an a-hole move. I am not sure if that is too dramatic but I sort of want my wife to stick up for me and explain my absence. I think my in-laws have been the AHs forcing me into this position with the constant insults, but my wife thinks I am the AH, which is why I ask.

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story

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It's impossible to know some things without further context

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This Redditor wouldn't go to anything involving them

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A good host is never rude

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The OP had this to drop in the comments...

I have a comfortable pair of jeans that I like to wear that has some holes. But is not like we are going to Sunday brunch. Just party at in-laws house. They just like to dress up

This Redditor believes OP's wife probably agrees with them

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We would have to look at the big picture sometimes

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The OP already chose to stay home

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This will be the OP's life if he stays

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Dressing is a personal choice, and individuals should feel empowered to make decisions about their wardrobe without fear of judgment or criticism from others. OP's decision to prioritize his own emotional well-being and avoid family gatherings that make him feel belittled is understandable.

However, the situation with his wife and her family is far from resolved. The added pressure of potentially becoming a father has only intensified the issue.

Redditors declared the OP not the AH, and that's where we draw the curtains.