40 Moments That Prove "Nice Guys" Aren't Actually Nice At All

Some people love calling themselves nice, but their messages tell a very different story. This roundup pulls together 40 moments from Reddit and beyond that show how quickly “nice guy” behavior can turn creepy, entitled, or just plain embarrassing.

From awkward flirting and guilt trips to full-on victim mode, the examples below capture the same pattern in different ways. A few are funny, some are uncomfortable, and all of them make the label feel a lot less flattering.

The screenshots get more unhinged as they go, and the last few are especially hard to ignore.

1. Actually, yes, with an attitude like that, you aren't worthy of a simple hello

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2. Honestly speaking, women would appreciate it more if you were actually just being a normal friend to them

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3. Think you can get away with a kiss?

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4. What's not clicking, Tony?

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5. When they are always getting friend-zoned and still think the problem is women

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6. No thanks, guacamole all the way

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7. Justice has been served

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8. Nice to know he has had character development

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9. Insult turned into a compliment

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10. Moby, the creepy old man who was probably just being "nice"

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11. The sheer audacity

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12. Guys kept ignoring context clues and played the victim

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13. How self-aware are you? Hopefully not the same as this guy.

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14. Let there be nice guys

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15. Messy dating moments

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16. "I (19F) broke up with my boyfriend (25M) of 2 months only to find out he was a 'nice guy.'"

Dodged a bullet right there!

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This is where the tone starts to shift from awkward to openly uncomfortable.

It’s similar to when Alex blamed you for giving Jen brutally honest advice about her partner, leading to a breakup, in that best-friend tough love blowup.

17. The Social Network keeping it real

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18. Actually...

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19. What a satirical take

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20. Being whiny is not "nice"

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21. Not all men

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22. Ask first

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23. They have an addiction to anger

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24. "Alpha" vs. Beta

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25. Did he honestly think this was going to work?

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26. Twisting things around

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27. Really?

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28. When they can't seem to comprehend that the world does not revolve around them

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29. It's the misogyny reeking

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30. "A Facebook friend had her boyfriend pass away recently, and she shared this experience from a 'nice guy'"

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By now, the pattern is impossible to miss.

31. "Here’s a fun guy who also texted my boyfriend about the matter (4). I made this account just to post this."

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32. Still playing the "nice guy" card

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33. They always do it...

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34. "This ‘nice guy’ claimed he'd never PMed a girl this way before and that he meant no offense, but his attitude changed dramatically after I forwarded a screenshot to his wife..."

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35. What do they owe you exactly?

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36. That quick mood shift rivals every woman's mood swings when they are on their period

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37. Still waiting for an apology

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38. They are getting creative with their ways

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39. "An old platonic friend randomly sent me a video of his ding-a-ling because he was trying to be nice... I think?"

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40. A "nice" stalker

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Some of these may or may not have triggered your fight or flight response, but either way, there's a common denominator with all these self-proclaimed nice guys: they are a bunch of douchebags. If you're a guy reading this, hopefully, you aren't one of them, or if you think you are, there's still room for character development.

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Worried your tough love crossed a line? Read what happened after you advised Jen’s partner.