Listen To The Best Dating Advice From Older Women - 20 Posts

A 22-year-old swiper, convinced they just needed “the right person,” kept falling into the same loop, dates that fizzled fast, conversations that never went anywhere, and partners who acted surprised when boundaries showed up. Then they started listening to women in their 40s and 50s, not for cute one-liners, but for the kind of blunt, lived-in guidance that comes from years of watching patterns repeat.

Here’s the messy part, though: the younger crowd wanted romance on a schedule, while these older women were basically saying, slow down, pay attention, and don’t ignore the red flags hiding in plain sight. One minute it’s “being single is absolutely fine,” the next it’s “likely unfaithful” when the vibes turn inconsistent, and suddenly moving in, debating everything, and “pursue your dreams” all collide in the same relationship timeline.

And once you see the pattern, you’ll never look at the swiping game the same way.

1. Never settle

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2. Being Single is Absolutely Fine

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3. No Solutions Available

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4. Pay Attention: Hear What's Being Said

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5. In case you are looking for...

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6. Engage in Debates

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7. Really?

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8. An Exhaustive List

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9. Preemptively Addressing the Issue

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10. Pursue Your Dreams

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Also see the “Disastrous Dating Advice” mess, where a friend blamed you for her missed opportunity

11. Observe

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12. Likely an Unfaithful

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13. Living Your Best Life

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14. Exercise Caution

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15. Living Together

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16. Take Heed of Your Friends' Advice

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17. Determine Your Desires

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18. Looking at the Other Side...

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19. Stay True to Yourself

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20. Be Independent

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Right when “Never settle” sounds harsh, the whole story gets real with the moment someone keeps choosing the same type of person anyway.

That’s when “Pay Attention: Hear What's Being Said” hits, because the excuses start stacking up, and the words stop matching the actions.

Then “Engage in Debates” turns into a real test, since arguing about everything is fine until one person refuses to actually listen.

Finally, “Living Together” and “Take Heed of Your Friends' Advice” collide, because the friend who warned you was right about the pattern all along.

When it comes to dating, the sage advice of women in their 40s and 50s is worth its weight in gold. They know what they're talking about because they've been there and done that! Put yourself first, and don't let anyone treat you like a doormat.

Young daters should take some time to explore their passions, interests, and goals to develop a sense of self because nothing is more attractive than someone who knows who they are and what they want. If you can communicate your needs and desires clearly and respectfully, setting boundaries will be a piece of cake—no need to bring out the yellow tape!

By following this advice, young daters will have a better chance of finding a healthy and fulfilling relationship instead of just swiping left and right like a crazed Tinder addict. So, thank you, wise women of the dating world—we appreciate your insight (and your ability to avoid the creeps)!

The only thing younger daters should be swiping on now is their own standards.

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