Roommate Chaos: Why Im Moving Out - AITA?

AITA for planning to move out of my roommate's house due to her boyfriend living there rent-free and creating an uncomfortable living situation?

Damjan

Published in Interesting
24 Dec 2025

Roommate Chaos: Why Im Moving Out - AITA?

In this Reddit thread, a college student is grappling with a challenging living situation that has escalated to the point of considering moving out. The original poster shares her frustration with living with a roommate who not only allowed her boyfriend to move in without consulting her but also contributes nothing to household expenses.

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To add to the tension, the boyfriend's presence creates an uncomfortable atmosphere, particularly in shared spaces and around personal boundaries. The poster's concerns extend beyond just financial imbalances; she feels that her friendship with her roommate is at risk due to the toxic environment they now share.

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With the impending arrival of the roommate's brother and his friend, the living arrangements are set to become even more complicated, as they would need to share a bathroom that was once private to the original poster. As she weighs her options, she has decided to seek a new place to live and intends to give her landlords formal notice.

However, her roommate's reaction is less than supportive, prompting the poster to question whether she is in the wrong for wanting to leave. This discussion invites readers to reflect on the complexities of roommate relationships, boundaries, and the importance of communication in shared living situations.

What do you think? Is she justified in her decision to move out, or could there have been a better way to handle the situation?

Original Post

My roomate and I moved into a house her parents purchased for college. Her brother is planned to move in over the coming summer along with one of his friends.

I have the hall bathroom currently, but after they move in, the two of us would be sharing her bathroom inside the master bed. The problem I’ve been dealing with for months is that her boyfriend moved in against my consideration.

I came home one day and she didn’t ask me, but rather told me that she “kind of just told him he could stay here.” I told her I was uncomfortable with this but to no avail. The two of them are constantly at it in their room and it can be heard throughout the house every time.

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They don’t clean after themselves, food is left on open plates in the fridge, oh and yeah he doesn’t pay rent! Neither does she!

She pays the utilities and I have to fork over 700 a month, while her boyfriend who contributes nothing lives here for free! He has a job as well.

That money however has gone towards a new motorcycle, grill, and guitar in the last 4 months (despite her claims that he is broke). I was left here alone with him for 3 days when I had finally reached my breaking point.

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I called her to tell her I was not comfortable living here anymore and very respectfully said I was looking for another place to go and planned on moving out when I found one. She has yet to tell her parents (who are my landlords) and has been giving me s**t for moving!

I’ve been packing and she acts like it’s so shocking that I have been, when I told her 3 days ago that I had a tour for a place I was solid on booked for the coming weekend. She’s incredibly toxic to live with, and to save the last remainder of our friendship (and my own dignity and sanity) I made the choice to leave.

I’m giving my landlords over a months notice formally (no contract was ever drawn up either). AITA for leaving?