Should I Be Sorry for Playing Matchmaker Between My Best Friend and Crush?

A 28-year-old woman tried to play Cupid for her best friend, and it worked… until it didn’t. She had a crush on Mark too, the guy her best friend kept hinting about for months, so the whole thing already had layers. But when Mark casually told her he didn’t see her best friend romantically, she got blindsided.

So she did what any “I’m helping” person would do, she arranged a meeting between Mark and her best friend without telling anyone, calling it a group hangout. They hit it off fast, then her best friend confessed feelings, only to get shut down because Mark wasn’t interested. Now her best friend is furious at her for meddling, and OP is stuck wondering if she accidentally crushed the very person she was trying to set up.

Here’s the part where the matchmaker role turns into the villain arc.

Original Post

So I'm (28F), and recently I found out that my best friend (26F) has a crush on this guy, let's call him Mark. Mark is someone I've had feelings for for a while, and he's shown some interest too.

Here's where things get messy. During a casual conversation, Mark mentioned to me that he doesn't see my best friend in a romantic way, which surprised me.

On the other hand, my best friend has been dropping hints about Mark constantly. For context, my best friend hasn't had the best luck in relationships, and I thought setting her up with Mark could be a great match.

Without telling anyone, I arranged for them to meet under the guise of a group hangout. Surprisingly, they hit it off really well, and I felt like a true friend for making it happen.

However, things took a turn when my best friend confessed her feelings to Mark, only to find out that he's not interested. She was crushed, and I felt terrible for unintentionally putting her in that situation.

Now, my best friend is upset with me for meddling in her love life without her consent, but I genuinely thought I was helping her. I never meant to hurt her, but I can see how my actions may have backfired.

So AITA?

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This mirrors an AITA case where someone accidentally set up their friend with their crush, only to realize they already knew each other.

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OP heard Mark say he didn’t feel anything for her best friend, and instead of backing off, she planned a “casual” meet-up for them.

The group hangout worked too well, because Mark and her best friend actually clicked, and OP started feeling proud for once.

Then her best friend confessed to Mark, and the rejection landed like a plot twist nobody rehearsed.

Now her best friend is mad at OP for setting it up without consent, even though OP insists she genuinely thought she was helping.</p>

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OP is stuck wondering if she should apologize, or if Mark’s timing and honesty are the real problem.

Before you play matchmaker again, read why this AITA poster hid the setup from their best friend and crush.