Should I Have Listened? AITA for Taking Job Friend Was Fired From?

Some friendships don’t just add drama, they actively try to steer your life. In this Reddit post, a late 20s woman lands a manager job at a coffee shop that is close to home, pays well, and sounds perfect. Then her friend shows up like a walking warning label, insisting she’ll “definitely get fired too” and that the job will “destroy my mental health.”

The catch is, the friend is not exactly a glowing reference. She used to work there, got fired about a year ago, and has been fired from multiple jobs. The OP also knew her from a previous workplace where she was, in OP’s words, rude, bad attitude, and lacking basic skills. Still, the friendship is toxic, full of love-bombing, and now the OP is stuck being the maid of honor for her upcoming wedding.

After one week on the job, the friend is mad and claiming OP made a mistake, so the real question becomes whether ignoring the warning was empowering or reckless.

Original Post

I (late 20s) lost my job last month and applied for a manager position at a local coffee shop. It pays well, is super close to my house (which is essential since I don’t drive), and is a leadership role—so overall, a great opportunity for me.

The only issue? My friend used to work there and was fired about a year a go.

She told me not to take the job, saying it would "destroy my mental health" and that I would "definitely get fired too." Here’s the thing: I used to work with this friend at another store (where we met), and she was an **awful** employee. Bad attitude, rude to staff, thought she was better than everyone, and lacked basic skills.

This is also the third job she’s been fired from. Our friendship is honestly really toxic.

I’ve tried to distance myself multiple times, but she love-bombs me, and I’m an autistic people-pleaser, so somehow, I’m now the maid of honor at her upcoming wedding (but that’s another thread). I’ve been at this job for a week now, and I love it.

The team is great, super supportive, and the location is ridiculously convenient. I’m someone who gets along with people and does my job efficiently, so I don’t usually have work conflicts, unlike my friend.

Now she’s mad at me for taking the job and keeps saying I made a mistake. **So, AITA for ignoring her warnings and taking the job anyway?**

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This kind of friend interference feels similar to the AITA where a friend pressured someone to give up the puppy they bonded with.

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OP thought the coffee shop manager role would be her fresh start, but her friend’s “you’ll get fired too” prophecy is already haunting the first week.

The friendship gets uglier because OP knows her from another job, where she was fired-level bad at the basics and somehow still acts like she’s above everyone.

Now that the team is supportive and OP is doing the work efficiently, the only thing blowing up is her friend’s jealousy and constant reminders that she “warned” her.

Even with the wedding looming and OP stuck as maid of honor, her friend keeps pushing the blame, like taking the job was the betrayal.

What do you think about this situation? Let us know in the comments.

She took the job for herself, and now her friend wants credit for the warning and control over the fallout.

If you’re dealing with money pressure at home too, read how someone refused to keep paying for their parents’ lavish lifestyle after moving back.