Should I Share My Secret Family Stuffing Recipe with Critical Sister-in-Law at Thanksgiving?

Thanksgiving is supposed to be the one day a family lets the food do the talking, but in this Reddit thread, OP is stuck in a culinary standoff with his sister-in-law, Sarah. The kind of person who can smell a casserole from across the room and still find something to critique.

OP has a stuffing recipe that’s been passed down for generations, and it means more to him than just ingredients and measurements. Sarah, though, comes from a family of chefs and has never missed a chance to tell him how she would do things differently, even while OP is busting his butt hosting. Now she’s requested the recipe so she can make it for her own family, and OP is torn between keeping a tradition intact and avoiding a blow-up at the dinner table.

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So I'm (30M) hosting Thanksgiving dinner this year, and it's always been a tradition for my family to make a special stuffing recipe that's been passed down for generations. My sister-in-law, let's call her Sarah, has never been a fan of my cooking.

Every time we have a family gathering, she makes comments about how she would have prepared the dishes differently or how her own family recipes are superior. It's really disheartening, especially since I put a lot of time and effort into cooking.

For background, Sarah comes from a family of chefs, and she prides herself on her culinary skills. While I appreciate her passion for cooking, her constant criticisms have made me hesitant to share our family recipes with her.

Our stuffing recipe is particularly special to me, and I don't want it to be subject to her scrutiny. This Thanksgiving, Sarah has requested that I share the stuffing recipe with her so she can make it for her own family.

I feel torn because on one hand, I want to keep our family tradition alive and preserve the sentiment behind the dish. However, I also don't want to cause tension at the dinner table by denying her request.

So, would I be the a*****e if I refuse to share my secret family stuffing recipe with Sarah, knowing how much it means to me and how she has criticized my cooking in the past? I really don't want to upset her, but I also want to protect the integrity of our family tradition.

What should I do? AITA?

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It’s like the potluck argument over whether to share a secret family recipe when a friend pushes back, according to Reddit users debating the exact situation.

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Sarah’s “helpful” comments about OP’s cooking are already sitting like burnt stuffing at the bottom of every family gathering.

When Sarah asks for the recipe outright, it turns a cozy tradition into a test of whether OP gets to have boundaries.

The fact that OP feels protective of the recipe, not just the food, makes the request feel less like sharing and more like scrutiny.

By the time Thanksgiving rolls around, one decision about a stuffing recipe could decide whether the table stays warm or gets awkward fast.

We'd love to hear your take on this situation. Share your thoughts below.

OP might want to keep the recipe in the family, because Sarah already treats his cooking like a critique workshop.

Wondering if you should let Sarah “spruce it up” after criticizing your stuffing? Read this AITA.