Man Cries Out As His Sister Wants To Sabotage His Disney Engagement Trip

Some families can’t keep their hands off other people’s big moments, and this one is a full-on Disney plot twist. OP’s girlfriend is finally excited about a proposal trip, the kind that’s supposed to feel magical and personal, not like a group project.

But then her sister shows up with an idea that sounds “helpful” on the surface and feels like sabotage underneath. The sister wants OP to bring her niece and nephew to Disney, even though everyone knows this trip is for the proposal. OP is stuck between not wanting to hurt the kids’ feelings and not wanting to turn their once-in-a-lifetime plan into her sister’s shortcut to a family vacation.

Now OP is wondering if he’s the bad guy for setting a boundary before the happiest day of his life turns into chaos.

The OP kicks off her story...

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OP's girlfriend is starting to feel guilty and wondering if they should cave in

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That’s when OP’s offer to keep the trip proposal-only starts getting twisted into a guilt problem, not a logistics problem, for his girlfriend’s sister.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

Sister wants me to bring my Niece and Nephew to Disney despite knowing it's a proposal trip. I feel like she is overstepping but I also don't want the kids to be sad.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

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She can take her kids herself to go experience Disney

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Disney has never been just for kids alone

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OP's sister is using her kids to get a break

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She is acting like a self entitled parent

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The girlfriend even starts feeling guilty and asks if they should “cave in,” because the kids might be disappointed if they are left out.

This also echoes the team member refusing to compromise on project direction.

Meanwhile, Redditors point out that the sister can take the niece and nephew to Disney herself, and that this request looks less like kindness and more like a break for her.

Proposing at Disney is a great concept that the OP has thought of because it will be very meaningful to her girlfriend. Redditors agree that it is neither strange nor childish.

Doing what's unique for the other person is all that matters in a proposal. More comments to check out below.

Shame on OP's sister for trying to force her kids on her

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OP's sister needs to chill out

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Disney is for everyone and not just kids

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And as OP tries to protect the meaning of proposing at Disney, the comments basically say the only thing that should be forced here is the sister to chill out.

What was meant to be a moment of magic now feels like a test of boundaries. Instead of picturing a proposal, the OP is worrying about guilt, pressure, and disappointed expectations that were never his to create. He wants their beginning to be intentional, joyful, and theirs alone.

Redditors understood that, and in the end, the OP was declared not the AH.

In the end, OP just wanted a proposal, not a family field trip that hijacks the whole moment.

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