Woman Gets Upset Whenever Her Children Refer To Their Stepfather As "Dad"

Stepfamily dynamics can get messy fast, especially when a child starts using a title that feels earned, not assigned. In this case, one woman is upset that her children call their stepfather "Dad," even though he is the one showing up for them day after day.

Reddit user u/steproblems says he loves his stepchildren like his own, and he even refers to them that way sometimes. His wife, however, sees that as disrespectful to the children's biological father, even though he is not really in the picture.

That disagreement has turned a simple family word into a much bigger fight. Now the kids, the stepdad, and the mom are all stuck in the middle.

Here's the original Reddit post by u/steproblems:

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The wife even asked OP to correct them if they ever call him Dad.

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That is where the tension really starts to show.

The kids are having none of it.

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OP ended up confronting his wife about it.

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The biological father isn't even in the picture.

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Then the Reddit comments came in fast.

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to u/steproblems's dilemma:

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If anything, it is a compliment.

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Fatherhood doesn't necessarily mean being the child's true biological father.

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He does much more for the kids than their real dad.

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He clearly earned that title.

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She has more respect for an absent father than for her husband.

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They alone can choose who they want their dad to be.

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This also echoes a dad who divorced his wife after finding her secret savings, while his kids called him heartless.

Blood doesn't make family; love does.

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You can tell that the children have a lot of love for him.

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There’s a difference between father, stepfather, and dad.

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If he gets replaced after being a deadbeat father, it's on him.

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They claimed OP as their dad, and the mom should allow it.

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A kid can have more than one dad.

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She turned something extremely positive into a negative.

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She has assigned herself way too much power.

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Why does she have so much loyalty to this man?

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She only wants OP to fulfill some roles but not all of them.

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As long as he says it with love, it shouldn't matter.

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She didn't care about her children's feelings either.

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The wife's expectations are completely unrealistic.

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OP replied to the previous comment and clarified some matters further.

OP replied to the previous comment and clarified some matters further.

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OP should totally adopt them in the future!

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The poor kids are used to rejection from their bio dad.

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It's her fault that they're acting that way.

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She needs to accept it sooner or later.

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OP's wife seems to have an unreasonable amount of loyalty to her ex-partner because, despite being out of the picture, she still ensures that he's never disrespected in the slightest. He doesn't even bother to visit his kids, so he doesn't deserve to be referred to as a "dad".

OP is definitely NTA this time. He's a great husband and father who's doing everything as he should. His wife, on the other hand, needs to sort her feelings out and understand that her kids want things to be this way.

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