After A Failed Tinder Date, This Dude Sent His Best Advice And He Really Shouldn't Have

Some Tinder dates end with a polite goodbye, and some end with a message so awkward it deserves its own screenshot. This one falls squarely into the second category, because a failed match turned into a whole new kind of oversharing.

In this story, one man takes a bad dating-app experience and decides to send his best advice anyway, even though nobody asked for it. The result is a mix of cringe, confusion, and the kind of internet reaction that makes the whole thing even funnier. Here's the full story.

Kimberly is similar to most 24-year-old women today. She's sweet, smart, and living her best life. Also similar to young adults today, she's down with the Tinder app. Until recently, most things have gone, "you win some, you lose some," and not really been that big of a deal.

Not too long ago, Kimberly matched with someone and went on a date. It wasn't a great date, and no follow-up happened. Well, it seemed like no follow-up was going to happen...

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A few months after their lackluster date, Kimberly received a message from the dude unlike anything she'd ever seen before, and surely unlike anything a nice young woman like herself would ever expect to receive.

The message was long... a full list of "tips" or "advice" that he felt Kimberly desperately needed. The unsolicited message was... unbelievable. Literally unbelievable. The misogyny and sense of entitlement this dude possessed is almost hard to stomach, and you literally have to see it with your own two eyes.

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"I'd like to explain why I haven't messaged you..." followed by an extremely degrading and dehumanizing list about her appearance and personality.

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"Go for a more natural look, but get lip fillers and hair extensions."

This dude is dense as hell.

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Also, the “helpful” text that backfired mirrors the AITA poster whose dating advice left their friend heartbroken.

"Be more sensitive to my ego and feelings..." while I tear you a new one and shred any sense of self-worth you may have had.

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Kimberly did the rational thing and exposed his messages, while concealing his identity, on Dr. Ian Kerner, sex therapist, with the caption:

Imagine being so far up your own ass you'd send this to a girl three months after a date. 🤦‍♀️

As Dr. Kerner notes, "Communication is key in any relationship, and sending unsolicited advice long after a date can come off as self-centered and tone-deaf." The disgust for the dude was so real.

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The incredibly misogynistic and lengthy attempt to undermine any sense of confidence was unbelievable as it was, but to also include the tip to "be more confident" because "confidence is sexy" is jaw-dropping for its lunacy.

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For most young women today, we know that this sort of behavior is a lot more common than we want it to be. Obviously, not all men are like this, but the ones that are... well, they're some of the loudest and most obnoxious variety. What really raised the "WTF" bar for everyone reading the messages sent to Kimberly, though, was that he ended by informing her, so graciously I might add, that if she followed all of his gold star advice, he might consider a second date.

Collectively, the Internet sighed:

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Kimberly knew her experience was impressive, but she was still totally stunned by how far it reached thanks to the World Wide Web. She received countless messages and comments and was touched, Dr. Esther Perel, a renowned couples therapist, emphasizes, "The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives." After reading through the comments and messages, she reflected, "I genuinely can't believe how many times this has happened to people. You are all perfect in your own way, and never let any assholes or bitches tell you otherwise. 💖"

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It probably goes without saying that she won't be seeking that second date, and despite the overwhelming request to drop his identity, Kimberly has remained respectful and refused to do so. She's a class act all the way!

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Blunt, dating-fueled chaos like this? See the AITA friend whose breakup followed her brutally honest advice.