30 Heartbreaking Responses To A Question About Being An Unattractive or "Ugly" Woman Posted on Reddit
The reality of these individuals is just too harsh.
Beauty standards can turn ordinary life into a constant comparison game, and Reddit users did not hold back when one person asked about the hidden downsides of being seen as unattractive.
The thread quickly filled with stories about rude comments, awkward treatment, dating frustrations, and the way appearance can shape everything from friendships to work. What started as a blunt question turned into a long list of painful experiences from women who feel judged before they even speak.
The responses were brutal, honest, and hard to ignore.
The question
RedditPeople, especially men, are rude to these individuals.
dontbesuspecious1, Keira BurtonA skinny girl who dresses down is considered cute and fashionable. The poster who did the same was told that she was lazy and didn't care about her looks.
loalenatrice, Andres Ayrton
Someone was attracted to the looks of the Reddit user, but she thinks it's a joke.
taco_h0e, Callum Shaw
A fat woman mentioned that 90% of her doctor's visits involve discussions about her weight.
Even check-ups for a sinus infection would still end up involving discussions about her weight. She says it's completely unnecessary unless it's something that will help clear up her illness.
Electronic-Cow7250, cottonbro
An attractive woman gained a lot of weight due to her medication.
She was overweight for about five years. When she wrote her post, she had already toned down and lost the weight as she was off the medications.
She experienced body dysmorphia and is receiving treatment. For most of her life, she was treated well.
She began to fear that she would be worthless to society if she gained more weight. Eventually, people started discussing her appearance in a blatant manner.
She is simply disgusted. What she has experienced shows that women are devalued for anything other than their appearances.
thedjmk
A user mentioned that even if her significant other tells her that she's beautiful, she still ends up comparing herself to more attractive women.
Warai-Kitten,Alex Green
Overweight women are often looked down upon.
They are told that their confidence is brave. Others even tell them that they don't have the right to love themselves.
GettingThere1212, Jeff Denlea
A user mentions that she spends a lot of time dressing up nicely only to see more attractive women once she goes outside.
Ethereal-Glow, Polina Tankilevitch
You become invisible to friends when they're having fun.
khajiitidanceparty, Lisa
Unattractive women often receive unsolicited health and weight loss advice.
At times, these recommendations never consider the woman's health. The user even receives unsolicited advice on attracting men.
loalenatrice, Andres Ayrton
A woman was told that she should be thankful that any man would want to sleep with her, invalidating her belief that she deserves a respectful relationship.
bbbbbbb9999, Jaymantri
Unattractive women face challenges in the workplace.
It's hard for them to get promoted. More attractive individuals often secure the best positions.
Nancy2421, Sigmund
Most men believe that unattractive women only seek validation through sex.
Sadly, men think that this woman would be easy to pursue, believing they can easily obtain sex from her.
_Lilith_89, cottonbro
Job opportunities are limited.
marymoon77, fauxels
This unattractive woman is exhausted by people trying to 'fix' her.
Her aunt, who is around 50 years old and ironically doesn't have a man in her life, asks her how she would attract men with a body like that. Unbelievable.
Forsaken-Vermicelli3, Dương Nhân
Ugly women generally don't receive sympathy like cute women do.
PikaBooSquirrel, Liza Summer
A Reddit user feels bad for her partner because he's in a relationship with an unattractive woman like her.
Sensitiverock85, freestocks.org
An overweight woman's observation
When she was overweight, girls would hit on her boyfriend in her presence. But when she's slim, they look down after seeing him and walk away.
catniagara, Katerina Holmes
A woman who lost weight after getting married received awkward comments from people.
Awww, he loved you for who you were on the inside!This implies that the guy wasn't attracted to her. Yet, he somehow pursued her.
Cyclibant, Jennifer Burk
An unattractive woman noticed that she received a different kind of treatment compared to her attractive friends.
They weren't very helpful to her. Moreover, they only wanted her company when they needed something.
Ethereal-Glow, Mor Shani
A woman who was once an ugly teen wasn't believed when she said that another girl was being hard on her.
Sadly, people would say that she's just jealous. Ugly individuals face a lot of bullying as well.
Cute_Mousse_7980, M.
Unattractive women often settle for men who are interested in them, even if they are terrible people.
thanarealnobody, Zhivko Minkov
When it's time to take a picture, the unattractive girl only gets to snap the camera and won't be in any photos.
jupiterjazz87, NordWood Themes
It hurts when people prefer the company of your best friend because she's more beautiful than you.
blopdab, Claudia Wolff
Unattractive women are often called 'sir' in stores. Additionally, they can't contribute to conversations, particularly if it's about being approached by men, because it has never happened to them.
vpetmad, Anastasiya Gepp
People often perceive ugly and chubby girls as stupid and uninteresting.
To add insult to injury, these mean individuals believe that unattractive women have no right to be attracted to or date attractive people.
dallasdina, Daniela Dávila
People can't say 'ugly' directly.
That's why they would say something along the lines of this:
I admire your self-confidence.
tealgirl94, Vinicius Wiesehofer
Guys will lie and use an unattractive girl.
He'd say that you're obsessed with him, and the only reason is that they want to make the other girls laugh.
Krazygirl1234, Kat Smith
"I'm not attracted to women like you," he says to an overweight woman.
einahpetsg, Laura Tancredi
A 21-year-old woman thinks that she'll never get married.
People tell her that she'll find the right man eventually. Still, she thinks about her teacher who resembles her.
This teacher is 50 years old, has never been married, and lives alone with two cats.
daydreaming-g, Ekaterina
The statistics show that millennials will struggle if they're unattractive.
They are likely to be judged or to judge others based on looks. Allure mentions that millennials belong to the mean-girl generation.
Sadly, we are judgmental creatures. It is in our nature to judge, even if it's not our intention.
Fortunately, 84% of respondents indicated that they are trying to be less judgmental. So if you feel like saying something that could hurt someone, always think twice.
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