Woman Refuses To Kick Her Son Out Of His Room To Make It Into A Full Nursery For Her Grandchild Who Will Visit Only Occasionally

Some family disagreements start small, then turn into a full-blown standoff over space, fairness, and who gets to decide what happens at home. In this case, a grandmother-to-be was asked to give up one of her teenage sons' bedrooms so her grandchild could have a nursery that would only be used occasionally.

Her son-in-law thought it made perfect sense, especially since he was willing to pay for the setup. But OP was not willing to squeeze her 16-year-old and 14-year-old into one room just to make space for a baby who would visit from time to time.

Now the family is split, and the argument has already gotten personal. Read on.

Sharing a room with a sibling is tough, especially if you already have your own room. Is it okay to make a teen share a room while his old room is being turned into a nursery for his nephew, who will visit only occasionally?

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OP shares her problem:

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Her daughter is expecting her first child.

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OP’s son-in-law asked her if she had emptied one of the rooms to turn it into a nursery, which left OP completely surprised.

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Tom (son-in-law) thinks it is normal.

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His mother has already prepared a nursery for the baby.

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That is where the conversation started to go sideways.

Tom starts threatening with rare visits.

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He is asking OP to move both of her boys (16 and 14) into one room.

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OP thinks it is unacceptable and is very upset by their suggestion.

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OP’s daughter called her dad, who accuses OP of favoring her sons over her daughter.

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OP is confused.

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Even though the son-in-law wants to pay for everything, she doesn't think it is okay.

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She says the offer does not change the fact that her boys would be the ones giving up their space.

This is also like the AITA case where someone declined her brother’s family move-in request.

And Redditors agree:

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One commenter thinks the setup would be unfair to the teenagers.

Two kids who need that room every day will be cramped while one room will be used only occasionally...

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It sounds like a joke. Not a good one, but still a joke.

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Another reader says the request is hard to take seriously.

To say it is unreasonable is an understatement...

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Grandparents with nurseries are not that common...

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Spoiled to the bone.

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Some people think the son-in-law is acting very entitled.

Occasional guests are not the same as full-time residents.

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Maybe this is their plan:

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OP’s daughter and her husband are inconsiderate and unreasonable, to say the least. It is obvious that Tom (son-in-law) is a rich and spoiled kid, and OP’s daughter is young and impressionable.

Her life before marrying was nothing like the one she has now (being well-off), and she thinks everything she hears and sees in her new surroundings is normal. Well, some things are not.

Making her brothers cram into one room is inconsiderate and not normal.

For another bedroom boundary fight, read how a woman refused to let her teen brother sleep in her bed.