Woman Refuses To Kick Her Son Out Of His Room To Make It Into A Full Nursery For Her Grandchild Who Will Visit Only Occasionally

Most people can't wait to become grandparents because it is a chance to make up for everything they missed while their kids were growing up. Parenting is hard, and most of the time, parents are concerned about the logistics (feeding, schooling, extracurricular activities, clothing), which doesn't leave them much quality time to spend with their kids.

On the other hand, grandparents are mostly retired, have plenty of time on their hands, and don't have to worry about the logistics. So, it's all fun and games.

All grandparents want to make their homes as comfortable as possible for their grandchildren, but there are some objective limitations. For example, some people don't have a garden for kids to play in.

Some people don't have a spare bedroom to turn into a nursery, just like our OP. One mom, who is about to become a grandmother, had to draw the line when her son-in-law insisted on setting up a nursery for the grandchild at the expense of one of her son's rooms.

That conversation, needless to say, did not end well. She shared her story and wants to know if she is right about not wanting to cram her two teenage boys into one room.

Let's take a look:

Sharing a room with a sibling is tough, especially if you already have your own room. Is it okay to make a teen share a room while his old room is being turned into a nursery for his nephew, who will visit only occasionally?

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OP shares her problem:

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Her daughter is expecting her first child.

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OP’s son-in-law asked her if she had emptied one of the rooms to turn it into a nursery, which left OP completely surprised.

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Tom (son-in-law) thinks it is normal.

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His mother has already prepared a nursery for the baby.

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Tom starts threatening with rare visits.

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He is asking OP to move both of her boys (16 and 14) into one room.

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OP thinks it is unacceptable and is very upset by their suggestion.

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OP’s daughter called her dad, who accuses OP of favoring her sons over her daughter.

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OP is confused.

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Even though the son-in-law wants to pay for everything, she doesn't think it is okay.

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And Redditors agree:

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Two kids who need that room every day will be cramped while one room will be used only occasionally...

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It sounds like a joke. Not a good one, but still a joke.

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To say it is unreasonable is an understatement...

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Grandparents with nurseries are not that common...

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Spoiled to the bone.

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Occasional guests are not the same as full-time residents.

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Maybe this is their plan:

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OP’s daughter and her husband are inconsiderate and unreasonable, to say the least. It is obvious that Tom (son-in-law) is a rich and spoiled kid, and OP’s daughter is young and impressionable.

Her life before marrying was nothing like the one she has now (being well-off), and she thinks everything she hears and sees in her new surroundings is normal. Well, some things are not.

Making her brothers cram into one room is inconsiderate and not normal.