Asian Woman Gets Disowned By Parents Because She Refused To Pay For Her Younger Sister's Lavish Lifestyle

In movies and TV shows like "Fresh Off the Boat" or "Crazy Rich Asians," it's shown how there are so many expectations and sources of pressure in Asian families, such as how smart you should be, who you should marry, or how much you should respect your family. The reality is not too far off.

If you're Asian or if you know someone who is, they could tell you that many Asian kids grew up in Asian households that aren't really chill at all.

In some families, parents always wanted good grades or even top grades from their kids. In others, parents dictate who their kids interact with or who they can be friends with.

It may seem extreme, but some Asian parents are just like that. They could even disown you for reasons you couldn't imagine, as one TikTok creator experienced.

This TikTok creator, who wished to remain anonymous, shared an emotional video on the platform with the caption, “I hesitated to post this video because my whole life, I was told to never air dirty laundry.” However, it seems she really needed a safe space to talk about what she's going through.

She titled her video "Asian Parents Trauma" and explained the immense pressure, responsibilities, and expectations her family placed on her. She also explained that her parents disowned her because she refused to further fund her sister's lavish lifestyle.

Here's the whole story.

TikTok creator explains how her Vietnamese parents disowned her after she refused to continue funding her sister's lavish lifestyle

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The lovely perks of having Asian parents for some people

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She got disowned for something that shouldn't be her fault

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As an older sibling, she shouldered most of the expenses that her parents couldn't pay for themselves

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She took on everything from living expenses, tuition, and even more

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However, her younger sister doesn't seem to realize or care about the value of that

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She spent money on things she should have thought twice about before spending on

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Of course, who wouldn't get frustrated when all your hard-earned cash is going to nothing?

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She had to set an ultimatum with her parents

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Unfortunately, the situation was turned back on her, and she was made out to be the villain of the story

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Sadly, she feels like her responsibilities and the expectations placed on her by her family have put her in an unfair position

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She feels nothing but trapped by her life

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And while she would love to care for her parents and siblings, she doesn't want to be just a wallet to them

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It's no secret that many Asian parents are quite hard on their children. In Asian society, education and achievements are often status symbols that can lead to success in life, so parents push these values onto their children from a very early age.

According to one study, a common expectation among many Asian parents is that their children will automatically achieve joy and be grateful when they get a life in the U.S. If that doesn't happen, the children's negative reactions are often interpreted as a lack of appreciation and respect for their parents' efforts.

Some parents assume an authoritarian role to teach their child a lesson, while others take on a victim role, accusing the child of bringing shame to the family.

In fact, mental health is often not a subject of discussion in many Asian families. Sadly, many kids are taught to just stop crying and to get up and move on.

Many people in the comments comforted her and told her it was the right thing to do

bellabee100

It's true! It would be healthy for her sake to set boundaries

alwaysingratitude

It's a parent's job to raise their kids and provide them with a good life without expecting anything in return

alexa_schmitz

It's time she focuses on her own happiness and not just the happiness of others

cheekybeeble

It's for the betterment of her life

kimmysgreencorner

Amen!

ileana.ceron

Reclaim the life you want to have

roberutsu

She's a good person who just wants to take care of herself for once

laetitiaky

She should teach them how to value each other properly

dr.sayf

It would not have served anyone right

coachsamahb

Just because you were born first doesn't mean you have to become the family wallet

sookyspice

They should learn that her sole purpose in life isn't to be their wallet

roxyroma

You can appreciate and repay in many other ways

wiamlou

Let them go

brachuisaurus

She did more than was asked of her

kalisevalyrie

It's hard to escape these kinds of cultures and traditions that are so deeply rooted in families, but you also have to think for your own sake. It's not bad to repay your family for their efforts and to take on some responsibility for them, but there have to be boundaries.

We're glad she has taken that first step, and we hope she realizes it was the right thing to do. She and her family need that wake-up call.