Women Revealed 51 Shocking Facts They Had To Explain To Their Partners Because They Didn't Know
"Ponies don’t grow up to be horses"
A 28-year-old woman’s relationship wasn’t falling apart because of drama, it was falling apart because her partner had wildly incorrect ideas about basic reality. And when she tried to correct him, it turned into a whole lecture series he somehow needed to pass.
In one story, he was convinced catcalling was basically a myth, until she explained he’d never see it because she was always around her 6’3”, 230 lb black friend. In another, he insisted women shouldn’t fart, like gas is a gendered feature, not a digestive system. Then there’s the classic “that’s not cheating” moment, when he thought vaginal discharge meant she was doing something shady.
These weren’t misunderstandings, they were full-on belief gaps, and the fallout was messy, hilarious, and painfully real.
1. Doesn't believe in catcalling
"Not my partner, but just another man, but I feel that a lot of men think this way. He didn’t believe catcalling happened, or at least was _really_ rare, because he had never seen it happen and he hung out with girls all the time.We informed him that was because no one was going to catcall a girl who was hanging out with a 6’3” 230 lb black man."
bugsinmypants2. Not everyone likes hugs
MrsFirno3. Old blood is brown
reptilenews
The insights presented in this article highlight the intricate gender dynamics that frequently surface in relationships.
Exploring the Impact of Gender Norms
Gender norms play a significant role in shaping expectations within relationships. Research from the University of Toronto indicates that many men and women grow up with distinct social scripts that dictate how they should behave in relationships. This can lead to misunderstandings when partners fail to meet these unspoken expectations.
For example, the statement about ponies not growing up to be horses encapsulates a broader societal misconception about growth and maturity. In relationships, these beliefs can influence how partners perceive each other's actions and emotional capacities, often leading to frustration when one partner feels the other is not 'growing up' as expected.
4. Women have a digestive system that produces gas just like men
"A partner told me that women and girls shouldn’t fart. I had to explain that we have a digestive system that produces gas just like men."
PhotosByVicky
5. Men and their thoughts
pinkpenicillin
6. "That I wasn’t cheating on him.. he was seeing vaginal discharge in my underwear"
BabyGothQ
This strain is often exacerbated by the perception of imbalanced responsibilities, leading to conflict and dissatisfaction.
For many women, the burden of educating their partners can lead to feelings of exhaustion and disappointment, particularly when their contributions are overlooked.
Men may feel they must adhere to stoic ideals, while women may feel obligated to fulfill nurturing roles. This often results in partners being unable to express their true selves, leading to conflict and dissatisfaction.
Encouraging open discussions about these norms can help both partners understand the underlying motivations for each other's behaviors, ultimately fostering a more supportive relationship.
7. It's normal for women
Nemo_fish23
8. Can't control nature
"I had to explain to my boyfriend, who was very much annoyed by the fact that my period came and went as it pleased, that I can't just manually regulate it myself to make it punctual each month. It was...an experience for sure.Made me realize I indeed should have sued my period for being so unreliable (how dare it?! It be your own, fellas)"
psycholyze1
9. The vaccine did not make you magnetic
oldmanpuzzles
That catcalling argument gets even worse when you realize he didn’t believe it because he “never saw it,” even though OP was literally with a guy big enough to make the whole point undeniable.
Fostering mutual understanding in relationships is crucial for emotional growth.
Communication Breakdowns and Their Consequences
Communication is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships, yet many couples struggle with it.
10. Because the front pockets are shallow
"Why women put their phones in their back pockets. He was shocked when I stuck my hand down a front pocket to demonstrate how shallow it was."
PandaPartyPack
11. "That it’s not normal to drip pee outside of the toilet"
"And if you do, you either need to clean it up or start sitting down"
snakeplant34
12. "All the precautions I take when going out at night."
"He didn’t have a clue how many rules we memorize like (check the back seat, jump in and immediately lock the doors, ignore anything found on your windshields or windows, etc.)"
punctuationist
Effective communication is essential in bridging the gaps highlighted in the article about women's shocking revelations to their partners. Couples can significantly improve their relationships by dedicating regular time for open discussions. This practice allows partners to address challenges and share personal experiences, fostering a deeper connection. Establishing a safe environment for these conversations not only encourages emotional intimacy but also equips partners to better navigate misunderstandings. Ultimately, it is through these dialogues that couples can cultivate a more robust partnership grounded in understanding and mutual respect.
Furthermore, emotional intelligence plays a pivotal role in navigating relationship dynamics. This understanding can significantly reduce the likelihood of miscommunication and conflict.
Investing time in developing emotional intelligence through practices like mindfulness and reflective listening can enhance relationship satisfaction and improve conflict resolution strategies.
13. "Women can't hold their menstrual fluid in"
"Women can't hold their menstrual fluid in like you do with urine. At the time I explained this, we were in our early twenties and he was well-educated with a college degree.He's also very, very intelligent. I was utterly gobsmacked he didn't know this."
BlackWidow1414
14. There is also mental abuse
PlantBasedPoetry
15. "I had to explain that we attach pads to the underwear, not our vagina."
BabyPandaw
Then comes the hygiene and body-function confusion, where OP had to explain that women fart, just like men, and apparently that was news to her partner.
Addressing these gender dynamics requires both partners to take active responsibility for their learning and growth.
Lastly, it's important to recognize that learning and growth are inherent parts of relationships.
It’s like the AITA over sharing a partner’s unique meal preferences with friends, sparking a privacy vs honesty fight.
16. He did not know what determines the gender of the child
anon
17. "That babies are born with their eyes open"
"I was about 8 months pregnant and he thought babies were like puppies/kittens/etc and asked me how long til our baby would open her eyes."
ImNotA_IThink
18. Doesn't know where the cervix is
Jessiefrance89
19. "That women should pee after sex to avoid getting a uti"
Susurrusilously
20. "Not every woman can orgasm from penetration."
"My other half was a bit of a player in his younger years so this surprised me a lot. He still thinks I'm the rare one for not being able to."
Keekee-88
21. Urine doesn't come out of the vagina
"Urine doesn't come out the vagina and vice versa. I can't believe men don't know that women have more than one hole (not counting the butt).This is not just my husband, seems to be a common belief of men. Gee, did they not learn anything in health class or when playing around?"
ACs_Grandma
22. Meatballs are made from minced meat
"They hate mince meat but their favourite food is meat balls.. When I asked what they thought meat balls were made of, he didn’t know..so I had to explain that meatballs, burgers and mince are all the same thing.. just in a different shape"
bleak_gallery
23. "Eggs are not dairy."
"Just because they’re in the “Dairy section” in US grocery stores, it does not mean they’re dairy. Kombucha is also in the dairy section, and prepackaged cinnamon roll dough.Like eggs, not dairy. He was shook."
Spirited-Safety-Lass
24. "That it's not sad for women to use toys."
Rubbish_69
25. A few things:
"A few things I’ve had to explain:• Lindsay Lohan plays both kids in The Parent Trap. No, I’m sure it’s not the Olsen twins.• As a 20-year old, I was not 12 “five years ago.” (And he worked in finance at the time).• Leia had a baby with Han.• Preferring to use pads over tampons doesn’t make a woman ‘immature.’• How libraries work (he thought the concept of books passing through many hands was ‘gross.’ This was pre-COVID)."
Aristaeus16
26. "It's not necessarily a sign of an STD."
NotTodaySquirrel
27. He thinks it only takes one time to get pregnant
"My bf genuinely thought it only takes one time to get pregnant. He's had sex before but with condoms so now that we're trying he literally looked at me and said how aren't you pregnant yet?It only takes one time."
Chibsie
28. How to chop vegetables
folklovermore_
29. "He thought girls shook their butt to turn the boys on"
"In high school, super low-cut tight jeans were 'in.' All of us girls had to constantly pull them up, and even do a little wiggle to get them up. I had no idea how this looked; I just wore the jeans I thought were cute and in style.He thought girls shook their butt to turn the boys on while they were walking behind them. I haven’t been able to get that one off my mind since."
pample_meese
30. Basic thing
"My partner actually believes that it’s fine to leave cooked meat out for hours because “it’s not raw”. As someone who has taken microbio, I can confirm this is a terrible idea."
madz7137
31. "That ponies don’t grow up to be horses"
cornelioustreat888
32. How to know when water is boiling
arendecott13
33. Mushrooms and chocolate truffles are not the same things
"This was my ex but,Him: "You say you don't like mushrooms but you'll eat this?" *holds my chocolate truffle ice cream up*Me: "Because actual truffles are different from chocolate truffles. They're two separate things. What?"Him: *blush*. It was cute af though"
AdministrativeCow659
34. "That he can't tell a pregnant woman how "huge" she is."
"That if he gives the dog exactly what she wants to stop her from doing what she shouldn't be, then he's just reinforcing her bad behaviour. That reverse racism/sexism etc. isn't a thing"
boatsmoatsfloats
35. "That Pelicans and geese are a different species...????"
Jasperisadingus
36. "He thought that gynecologist is for male problems too"
Desperate_Camel5051
37. "Periods last a whole seven days and not just one"
"Saw a post about how a kitchen sponge sitting in water breeds more bacteria than if left to dry, which reminded me how I had to explain the whole concept to a guy I previously dated who didn’t believe sponges should be kept dry in tropical climates. I also had to explain how periods last a whole seven days and not just one (I wish)."
wwwwxyz
38. Empathize your partner's feelings
Large-Low-4091
39. "That "Anonymous" wasn't a person who wrote a million poems"
holo_charzard
40. What happens during a Pap smear…
No-Lingonberry5519
41. There's not.
hayamidoll
42. "He thought the tapioca pearls in Boba drinks were caviar."
"He literally thought that they put FISH EGGS in boba. I still love him though."
Sufficient-Carpet-99
43. Unbelievable
BrewedMother
44. "I had to explain the concept of gift giving at birthdays, Christmas etc."
"First of all, my boyfriend doesn't care about receiving gifts at all and thought that's the norm for everyone. Second, he thought that a gift that's not useful (something that is just nice etc.) is worse than no gift, so he usually doesn't get a gift to anyone, if he can't come up with something super useful.And third, he thought that if you randomly buy little gifts to someone throughout the year, it's okay if you don't give them anything for big occasions. So I had to explain that people generally do care about getting gifts on major occasions, not getting a gift is the worst because even if the gift isn't good, at least it shows you put a bit of an effort into it, and while it's nice to randomly receive small gifts, the person still be rightfully upset if you don't get them anything for an occasion."
Samira827
45. How to cook potatoes
anon
46. The definition of the word “adultery”
reddit
47. "That you should leave hot food out to cool before you put it in the fridge."
reddit
48. "How to take the U-bend out from under your kitchen sink."
reddit
49. The colors of the rainbow
reddit
51. How to go through a drive-thru at a fast food restaurant
reddit
51. "He didn’t know who Genghis Khan was."
reddit
The “not cheating” situation is where it really spirals, because he wasn’t reacting to trust, he was reacting to underwear evidence he didn’t understand.
By the time he’s questioning everything from catcalling to bodily normalcy, OP is stuck doing the emotional heavy lifting just to get him to catch up.
After reading them all, would you mind telling us which one has shocked you the most? You can share your thoughts in the comment section below.
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The article underscores the importance of communication in relationships, particularly when it comes to addressing gaps in understanding between partners. The revelation of shocking facts that women often have to clarify for their partners highlights a significant disconnect in awareness of gender norms. This lack of knowledge can lead to misunderstandings that, if left unaddressed, may strain the relationship. Engaging in open dialogue about expectations and emotional needs is not just beneficial but essential for nurturing a healthy partnership. By fostering such communication, couples can cultivate deeper connections and create a more supportive environment where both individuals can grow together.
The revelations shared by women in the article highlight the pressing need for open communication between partners. Many of the shocking facts that women felt compelled to explain stem from common misunderstandings about gender roles and expectations. These insights suggest that a lack of awareness can create relational hurdles that may otherwise be easily navigated through candid discussion. The importance of shared responsibilities is underscored, as couples who engage in learning together can cultivate a partnership that is not only more balanced but also more enriching. This collective journey towards understanding can transform a relationship from one of ignorance into one of mutual growth.
Nobody wants to keep proving that biology exists, but that’s exactly what she had to do.
Wait, the pet snake surprise got vetoed without discussion, read how that played out: vetoing a partner’s pet adoption after they sprung it on you.
