This User Vents On Reddit About The Financially Abusive Partner And Asks WSBTA To Show Him The Excel Doc Of His Expenditure

When an abuser takes control of finances to prevent the other person from leaving and to maintain power in a relationship, it is known as financial abuse. An abuser may seize all the money, withhold it, and keep the victim's financial details hidden.

In physically violent relationships, financial abuse is common. When a relative, friend, or caregiver steals money from an elderly person, this is also considered financial abuse.

Financial abuse is often subtle and progressive, making it difficult to detect. Your partner may act as if taking over the finances is a way to help you, as if it is a favor.

Your partner may explain that setting aside a certain amount of money for you will help keep your family's finances on track. However, the "allowance" gradually decreases, and before you know it, you're asking for money and getting turned down.

If the abuser has access to your credit cards, bank accounts, or Social Security number, they may try to open accounts in your name or intentionally damage your credit to make it more difficult for you to leave the relationship.

Whether you choose to stay in the relationship or leave, you can take steps to safeguard yourself and your money. You might not have much time to gather information before leaving.

That's completely fine; just collect as much as you can. The most important thing is to get out of the abusive relationship as soon as possible.

Can you be TA for showing your boyfriend the document that contains the total expenditure on him?

u/thefrogshavearrived

Does this guy really need a girl to buy him his daily essentials? What a loser!

u/thefrogshavearrived

There are other ways to say no, such as, "Right now, I don't have money" or "I just have enough money for a meal."

u/thefrogshavearrived

This man needs to understand that he is in a relationship, and his girlfriend is not his mother to buy him things daily.

u/thefrogshavearrived

This guy seems to be taking advantage of the girl's innocence and the fact that she cannot deny him anything.

u/thefrogshavearrived

He does not care about your health or mental state; he just wants his needs fulfilled, no matter what.

u/thefrogshavearrived

The reason he doesn't value money is that he has not started earning; once he does, he will understand how difficult it is to save.

u/thefrogshavearrived

You have to take a stand for yourself, girl, if you don't want to be exploited so badly.

u/thefrogshavearrived

Ask him to earn his own money and then use it all the time; then blame him for being irresponsible with his finances.

u/thefrogshavearrived

For some reason, this guy thinks that OP is earning for him and that all of OP's money is his.

u/thefrogshavearrived

OMG, now he compares himself to OP's ex, and that too in terms of the money spent on them.

u/thefrogshavearrived

You should also maintain a document to keep track of his irresponsible and excessive spending.

u/thefrogshavearrived

There is literally no comparison between $450 and $5000. It's a difference of about $4,500.

u/thefrogshavearrived

The day isn't far off when he might put a gun to her head and demand OP's hard-earned money.

u/thefrogshavearrived

No, it will not make you TA; instead, it will show him the truth and that he has taken you for granted.

u/thefrogshavearrived

Show him the sheet and then the door, which will ultimately reveal where he stands in life.

u/thefrogshavearrived

He does seem quite abusive, and it won't be long before he physically starts abusing OP.

u/thefrogshavearrived

You probably should; this guy has a history of being mentally abusive and is now becoming physically abusive.

u/thefrogshavearrived

Exactly, since this guy doesn't have any money of his own, he would expect OP to buy him the gun as well.

u/thefrogshavearrived

When he gets upset, he doesn't let her live in peace, and if he gets really angry, he will not let her live in reality.

u/thefrogshavearrived

If she doesn't break up with him, she is definitely going to be drained mentally and financially.

u/thefrogshavearrived

If she values her life and cares about the people who truly love her, she should get out of this abusive relationship.

u/thefrogshavearrived

Yes! Please dump him like you did with your ex! He doesn't deserve your love, and especially not your money.

u/thefrogshavearrived

OP ignored so many red flags, and if she hadn't, she would have been free and living her life like a queen, saving loads for her future. Stop letting other people control you, your actions, your spending, and your life!

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