AITA for not answering the doorbell when my sister was waiting in the rain?

Some families treat “I forgot something” like an emergency siren. In this Reddit post, the emergency is a doorbell, a pair of headphones, and an 18-year-old sister showing up in the rain.

The sister usually leaves for the bus stop around 7:30 am, but she has a routine of coming back one, sometimes two times to grab whatever she left behind. The OP says they wake up with headphones on, and today they truly did not hear the doorbell. When the sister came back, she went through the back door, which is fenced in, because the OP did not answer, then yelled at them while their mom joined in that they should have opened up.

Now the OP is stuck wondering if the real issue is rain, noise, or the fact that this “quick stop” keeps happening.

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My sister, 18F, is a college student and usually leaves to go to the bus stop at 7:30 am, sometimes later. It's everyday that she comes back twice to get something she forgot and it's really annoying.

I wear headphones when I wake up because the music helps me start my day and she very much knows that. Today, she left and pressed the door bell, I couldn't hear anything.

We have a back door and front door, the back door is surrounded by a fence with a gate and she went through the back door because I didn't answer the door, and yelled at me with my mom joining in that I should've answered the door. I understand she has classes but I think it's her responsibility to not forget anything and also not expect someone to drop everything and attend to her needs, honestly if I forget something and it's not that big of a deal, l will just leave but she comes back for little things like a bracelet.

I also think it's my fault for not hearing anything and I should work on my headphone habit. Now she won't talk to me.

AITA?

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This is the same kind of trust-versus-drama dilemma as telling your best friend’s secret crush to her mutual friend.

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The OP’s headphones are the first snag, because the sister pressed the doorbell and they literally never heard it.

Then the back door situation escalates, since the sister didn’t just wait, she went through the fenced gate like the rules are different for her.

After the yelling and mom jumping in, the “it’s not a big deal” argument turns into something bigger, fast.

And the worst part, the sister refusing to talk to the OP, makes this morning mistake feel like it lasted longer than the rain.

What's your opinion on this situation? Join the conversation!

Nobody wants to be the person who gets blamed for not answering a door they never heard.

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