AITA for Singing at Sisters Wedding Without Permission?

AITA for singing at my sister's wedding without permission? Unplanned performances lead to awkward confrontation with the bride - was I out of line?

Damjan

Published in Interesting
17 Nov 2025

AITA for Singing at Sisters Wedding Without Permission?

Weddings are often a melting pot of emotions, surprises, and occasionally, misunderstandings. A recent Reddit thread has sparked quite a discussion as a 17-year-old girl shares her experience of singing at her sister’s wedding, seemingly without realizing the significance of her actions.

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The bride, her older sister, had arranged for specific family members to perform surprise songs, but when the younger sister took the microphone to belt out Coldplay's "Yellow," it led to an unexpected confrontation that left her feeling embarrassed and confused. The heart of the matter lies in the assumptions made during the celebration.

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While spontaneous moments are often celebrated at weddings, the sister's impromptu performance was not received as intended. The bride expressed her frustration, claiming that the event was not the younger sister's stage and highlighting that the singing should have been pre-approved.

This incident raises questions about how familial expectations, communication, and spontaneity intersect during significant life events. As the discussion unfolds, Redditors are weighing in with their perspectives—some sympathizing with the younger sister's innocent mistake, while others emphasize the bride's right to control her wedding day.

Join the conversation and share your thoughts: who, if anyone, is in the wrong here?

Original Post

I (F17) have an older sister (F23) who got married last weekend. The wedding had all of the extended family from her side and the groom's, and we both have big families so the wedding was pretty big.

During the reception, my aunt had requested a song from the DJ and went up to the microphone by the dance floor and started singing along to a Katy Perry song. I assumed she just spontaneously did this and that this wasn't preplanned.

I just assumed this was something any guests could do as a bit later my other sister did the same thing with a different song. Afterwards, I requested a song (Yellow by Coldplay if that makes a difference) and sang it.

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My sister (the bride) was giving me a weird look with her hands on her hips the whole time. Towards the end of the reception when most of the guests were leaving, my sister called me embarrassing and asked why I got up and sang at her wedding.

I said that I didn't understand the problem and pointed out that our aunt and other sister also sang. She explained they were preplanned "as a surprise" and songs that she wanted them to sing.

She said that I "sing really badly" and she hadn't asked me to sing, and that I shouldve checked with her. I was really taken aback because no one mentioned to me they were planned to sing, how was I supposed to know?

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I felt really embarrassed and apologised (although I didnt really mean it I just wanted the conversation to be over) and she said that her wedding isn't about me. I think she'll get over it but AITA?