Man Bars Cousins From His Wedding After Finding Out That They've Been Updating His Estranged Mom About His Life For The Past 14 Years

A family wedding turned into a fresh round of drama when one man learned his cousins had been quietly updating his estranged mom about his life for years. Years later, while planning his wedding, he discovered that the cousins he trusted had been passing along details about him to the mother he had kept at a distance.

Now he is cutting them out of the guest list, and the rest of the family is getting pulled into the fallout.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom?

u/lightbright123

The Redditor's mom tried several times to reconcile, calling her infidelity the "biggest mistake of her life."

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The Redditor found out that his cousins had been providing his mom with updates since he was 14 years old.

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The Redditor provided more context about the issue

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The story, which has since gone viral, garnered over 13k upvotes and more than 8k comments on Reddit. Let's see what people had to say about the post:

Some commenters thought the cousins crossed a line.

"It was 16 years ago, and you, while affected, were not really the aggrieved party."

u/Himkano

This user thinks it's best for the fiancée (Rachel) to end the relationship because apparently, the Redditor is an unforgiving person.

u/Olivia-Clara

"You’re taking it out on her entire family, and that’s just wrong."

u/me5671

"If any of my family members shared my information with that woman, I'd go no contact with them too."

u/WarmForTheRest

"She isn't owed forgiveness, and not giving it to his mom doesn't make him an AH."

u/WelcomeToKittenTown

"Go to therapy..."

u/suzunomia

"Her actions had severe consequences for him."

u/CrescentDarling

Others focused on how much hurt was still sitting under the surface.

This is the same kind of tension as someone postponing a family reunion to calm explosive relatives.

"OP is taking this so personally."

u/lyan-cat

"It sounds like you have a lot of pain bottled up."

u/Randomlygenerated367

"You should also be checking in with people who are far more qualified than all of us."

u/Coconosong

"Honestly, I would encourage you to explore why you feel this hatred for your mom that seems disproportionate."

u/lookslikephilcollins

"OP is TA for uninviting them."

u/kristinaEP

"This needs therapy."

u/Ok-Vacation4862

Not everyone agreed, and a few people said the wedding fallout was going too far.

"If having an affair was literally the only thing your mom did and she was cut off from everything, I feel for her immensely."

u/Bettyinoddsocks

"This doesn’t honor your dad, by the way."

u/SedatedVole

"If your fiancée is telling you you're going too far, maybe you should hear her out?"

u/My_Opinions_Are_Good

"Yes, she made a horrible mistake, but she’s spent 15 years passionately trying to have some form of a relationship with you while respecting your boundaries."

u/dcm510

"NTA...I made it very clear that if anyone told my dad about my life, specifically my wedding details, then I would cut them out."

u/MrsJonesy2012

Family is a very important part of our lives, but sometimes, heated confrontations can arise within the household. Unfortunately, some families reach a point of no return where they feel the only option is to break ties.

In this case, it seems the rift between the Redditor and his mom is far beyond reconciliation. But then again, nothing is impossible.

What's your take on the story? We'd love for you to join in on the conversation.

The wedding guest list may not be the only thing getting rewritten.

Keep reading for another wedding blowup, when someone skipped cousins after family drama involving an ex.