Man Bars Cousins From His Wedding After Finding Out That They've Been Updating His Estranged Mom About His Life For The Past 14 Years

Who hasn't had an estranged parent or sibling spy on them through other family members?

In today's world, it's not uncommon to hear stories about parents and their children being at odds with each other. Sometimes, it can be a long-standing feud that dates back to the early years of the child's life.

In many situations, the parents suffer the most pain from these issues because they are the ones who raised these children. Even when their kids become adults, they still think of themselves as guardians.

One particular story on Reddit seems to be making the rounds lately, painting a sad picture of what a broken family looks like.

In this case, the Redditor explained how his parents divorced when he was 12 due to his mom's infidelity. Her actions caused him so much pain and embarrassment that he decided to take a step back from everything.

Fifteen years down the line, while preparing for his wedding, the Redditor discovered that his mom had been keeping tabs on his life through his cousins. In anger, he decided to exclude them from the upcoming wedding.

After being scolded by his partner for taking things too far, he sought advice from the community on the best way to handle the situation.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom?

u/lightbright123

The Redditor's mom tried several times to reconcile, calling her infidelity the "biggest mistake of her life."

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The Redditor found out that his cousins had been providing his mom with updates since he was 14 years old.

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The Redditor provided more context about the issue

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The story, which has since gone viral, garnered over 13k upvotes and more than 8k comments on Reddit. Let's see what people had to say about the post:

"It was 16 years ago, and you, while affected, were not really the aggrieved party."

u/Himkano

This user thinks it's best for the fiancée (Rachel) to end the relationship because apparently, the Redditor is an unforgiving person.

u/Olivia-Clara

"You’re taking it out on her entire family, and that’s just wrong."

u/me5671

"If any of my family members shared my information with that woman, I'd go no contact with them too."

u/WarmForTheRest

"She isn't owed forgiveness, and not giving it to his mom doesn't make him an AH."

u/WelcomeToKittenTown

"Go to therapy..."

u/suzunomia

"Her actions had severe consequences for him."

u/CrescentDarling

"OP is taking this so personally."

u/lyan-cat

"It sounds like you have a lot of pain bottled up."

u/Randomlygenerated367

"You should also be checking in with people who are far more qualified than all of us."

u/Coconosong

"Honestly, I would encourage you to explore why you feel this hatred for your mom that seems disproportionate."

u/lookslikephilcollins

"OP is TA for uninviting them."

u/kristinaEP

"This needs therapy."

u/Ok-Vacation4862

"If having an affair was literally the only thing your mom did and she was cut off from everything, I feel for her immensely."

u/Bettyinoddsocks

"This doesn’t honor your dad, by the way."

u/SedatedVole

"If your fiancée is telling you you're going too far, maybe you should hear her out?"

u/My_Opinions_Are_Good

"Yes, she made a horrible mistake, but she’s spent 15 years passionately trying to have some form of a relationship with you while respecting your boundaries."

u/dcm510

"NTA...I made it very clear that if anyone told my dad about my life, specifically my wedding details, then I would cut them out."

u/MrsJonesy2012

Family is a very important part of our lives, but sometimes, heated confrontations can arise within the household. Unfortunately, some families reach a point of no return where they feel the only option is to break ties.

In this case, it seems the rift between the Redditor and his mom is far beyond reconciliation. But then again, nothing is impossible.

What's your take on the story? We'd love for you to join in on the conversation.