Am I Wrong for Calling Out My Parents Lack of Discipline?
AITA confronts parents about lack of discipline and responsibility towards younger siblings, sparking a debate on parenting dynamics and boundaries.
Some families hand you a “manager role” like it comes with a title and a paycheck, but this one gave OP the title, the workload, and zero authority. She is 19, already raising a 2-year-old, and somehow also expected to run the house like her parents are on a long vacation.
OP’s mom was mentally checked out when they were younger, and her dad has been in and out of bad situations until about two years ago. Now, the sisters, Gayle (14) and Sophe (16), basically coast, with Gayle having an older boyfriend over almost every day and Sophe always sleeping or glued to her phone. OP gets chores and cooking assigned to her, then gets told to “f/ck off” when she tries to get anyone else to actually do them.
So OP finally snapped and called out her parents for not disciplining the girls, and the fallout was immediate.
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A little backstory, I (19) female have 2 younger siblings ill call them Gayle (14) and Sophe (16). My mom was mentally unavailable when we were younger while my dad has been in and out of bad things up until 2 years ago.
I was practically raising my siblings by myself other than financially. My sibling where never really disciplined like I was and its shows.
Gayle has a boyfriend older than her and he is over at our house almost every day and Sophe is always sleeping or on her phone. I have been put in charge of chores and cooking on top of taking care of my 2-year-old son.
While I said I was put in charge I can't enforce chores, wake them up, discipline when chores are not done. My parents do not enforce or discipline either, so I am stuck doing everything.
I have been told to f/ck off more times than I can count for asking them to do chores, then yelled at by my parents for getting upset. I feel like I have been given a manager roll with no authority included.
I got tired of this and told my parents that if they don't discipline my sisters that my sisters where never going to get anywhere in life and that they were bad parents for not setting boundaries.
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OP is already juggling chores, cooking, and childcare, while Gayle’s boyfriend is basically part of the household routine and Sophe is always “unavailable.”
The real twist is that OP is told to take charge, but she cannot enforce anything when Gayle and Sophe ignore chores or don’t even get up.
Every time OP pushes for basic boundaries, her parents respond with yelling, then more “f/ck off” for getting upset about it.
After years of being the only adult in the room, OP told her parents that without discipline, Gayle and Sophe will never get anywhere, and that’s when the argument turned personal.
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