Am I Wrong for Criticizing My Daughters Boyfriends Job? | Reddit Story

A 28-year-old woman’s relationship drama turned into a full-blown family debate, and it all started with a simple question about a boyfriend’s job. OP’s daughter is dating a man old enough to be her father, and OP already had feelings about that age gap before the details even came up.

Then OP sat down with her daughter and asked what he does for work. The answer, “He’s a delivery driver,” was apparently the final straw. OP claims delivery driving is “not a real job,” insists she raised her daughter to date someone younger with an office job, and frames the whole thing like a skills problem, not a lifestyle choice.

But the comments section is where it gets messy, because the family dinner did not end well.

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While I very much dislike my daughter dating a man old enough to be her father, I have found yet another issue with him. I spoke with my daughter about him and asked what his job was.

She said, like her, he's a delivery driver. I thought I raised her to be better than this and I told her that is not a real job.

I always taught her to look for a nice young man with a good office job, not a man in his 40's with a job for teenagers. If he's stuck delivering things now, it obviously means he has no real skills.

I'm trying to break them up and find her a nice local boy her age with a better job.

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It also mirrors a friend pressuring you to give up the puppy you’re attached to.

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OP thought the delivery driver detail would shut the conversation down, but her daughter’s answer only made the age gap issue louder.

The minute OP said she wanted her daughter with a “nice local boy her age” instead, the whole plan to “break them up” sounded controlling.

With OP comparing delivery driving to a lack of “real skills,” commenters immediately started picking apart the logic behind the job insult.

After OP doubled down on trying to find her daughter an office-job match, the thread turned into a debate about respect, not employment.

What do you think about this situation? Let us know in the comments.

OP may have meant to protect her daughter, but she ended up sounding like the problem.

And if you think you’re tough, read about refusing to fund your parents’ lavish lifestyle after moving back home.