Am I Wrong for Skipping Skiing on Family Trip With Rich Husband?

A 28-year-old woman is getting dragged for something that sounds simple on paper, she skipped skiing on a family trip with her rich husband, and somehow it turned into a moral issue.

Her husband grew up skiing, his family treats it like tradition, and he’s been going forever. She can barely ski, their two kids also can’t, and grandma is already judging her for it. Then her FIL casually announces they’re skiing again, this time with his dad’s friend, and asks if she wants to join on a slope that’s clearly not beginner-friendly.

So she tried to explain she just wants a real vacation, not another day stuck managing kids, and now the whole family is mad at her.

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This is relevant. Husband comes from a rich family, I’m not.

He has always gone skiing, I can barely ski and have only been a few times. We went on a ski trip with his parents.

It’s expensive, he’s been coming to it since childhood. We have our two kids with us who also can’t ski; their grandma sees it as a moral failing.

My FIL found a few of his friends, people who knew my husband as a kid. They all went skiing.

This morning he told me they were skiing again with his dad’s friend, then asked if I wanted to come.

When I asked where, he named a slope that’s clearly not for beginners. I asked what I was supposed to do, and he said I could just come and have the kids.

I tried to explain that this doesn’t feel like a vacation for me, just my usual day in a different setting. He got defensive and we ended up arguing.

AITA? Because this isn’t even the first time.

We go somewhere, he goes and has fun and I stay with the kids.

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This reminds me of the family pressure over babies that led to one unfiltered response.

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The argument really starts when the FIL names a non-beginner slope and tells OP she can “just come” while the kids get handled.</p>

It gets uglier fast because OP points out she’s not actually skiing, she’s basically volunteering as the kids’ babysitter again.</p>

Meanwhile, grandma’s “moral failing” vibe is already hanging over the trip, so OP’s hesitation lands as a personal attack, not a logistics problem.</p>

And since this is apparently not the first time her husband disappears into skiing while she stays behind, the resentment turns into a full-on family blowup.</p>

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If he wants ski buddies, he should not keep recruiting his wife as the unpaid kid wrangler.

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