Family Pressure Over Babies Leads To One Unfiltered Response
Saying no to motherhood sparks hurt feelings.
Growing up, OP watched a very specific version of adulthood play out right in front of her.
Her aunt Jazz and uncle Will have five kids, ranging from a teenager down to a toddler. For as long as OP can remember, most conversations with them circle around the same topics. Not having enough money. Never being able to do anything together. Constantly juggling different needs and wants from each child.
To OP, it doesn’t look appealing. It looks exhausting.
She’s 21 now and has given this a lot of thought. She doesn’t want babies or young children, at least not anytime soon. She’s open to the idea of adopting older kids years down the line, but that’s far in the future. Her stance isn’t new, and it isn’t a secret.
What is new is how often relatives have started questioning it.
Jazz, in particular, keeps pushing. During a recent visit, she repeatedly asked OP when she planned to have a child of her own.
She told OP she’d make a great mother and pressed for a reason when OP said she didn’t want kids. OP answered calmly at first. She doesn’t want them. That should have been enough.It wasn’t.
The questions kept coming, looping back again and again, until OP finally snapped. When Jazz insisted on knowing why, OP said the thing she’d been thinking for years. She wants money and some level of freedom later in life, not debt and constant obligations.
Jazz went quiet, disappeared for the rest of the day, and later sent a text saying OP had attacked her lifestyle. She demanded an apology and said OP wouldn’t be allowed around her cousins until she got one.
Now OP is stuck between standing by her honesty and wondering if she crossed a line.
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“NTA...she continued to pry until you had to be brutally honest..”
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“People shouldn’t ask questions when they are not prepared to hear the answer.”
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“She pressed you for an answer and you gave it. If she can't handle the answer then that is on her.”
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“If she couldn’t take no for an answer and gets offended then that’s on her.”
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“You repeatedly told her you don’t want kids. She repeatedly asked you why.”
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NTA
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“You gave her the harsh truth when she wouldn't let you give her the easy answer.”
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She is attacking...
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OP answered honestly after being pushed repeatedly, but Jazz heard criticism in words that reflected her own reality.
Neither set out to start a fight, yet feelings were hurt all the same. It raises a tricky question about boundaries and responsibility.
How honest do you owe someone when they won’t accept a simple answer, and where does honesty turn into harm?
What do you think OP should do next? Share your thoughts in the comments.
