Am I Wrong for Wanting My Sleep? Husbands Nocturnal Habits Causing Strife

Some couples have “who forgot to take out the trash” fights, but this one is about something far more brutal when you are pregnant and barely holding your eyes open.

A 21-year-old woman just found out she is five weeks pregnant, and the exhaustion hit fast. She goes to bed earlier, trying to get real sleep, but her 25-year-old husband keeps staying up to play on his computer in the same room. He does it consistently, even after multiple talks, and he does not seem to notice the noise. Since she is a very light sleeper, every click and sound wakes her up, and now she is wondering if she is wrong for wanting to sleep somewhere else.

Now it is not just about bedtime, it is about whether she should stop sharing a room entirely.

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I’m a 21-year-old woman, and my husband is 25. We recently discovered that I’m pregnant, about five weeks along.

Lately, I’ve been feeling extremely tired and have been going to bed earlier than usual. My husband, however, decides to stay up and play on his computer when I’m lying in bed.

I don’t mind him playing on his computer, but this has become a consistent issue that I’ve had to ask him to stop doing while I’m trying to sleep. Every time he plays on his computer, he’s extremely inconsiderate and doesn’t realize that he makes a lot of noise.

(FYI, I’m a very light sleeper, so any sound wakes me up.) He’s been doing this even before I got pregnant, and I’ve talked to him about it multiple times. But now that I’m pregnant, I feel like he should be more understanding that I need to rest and sleep.

Am i wrong for not wanting to continue to be in the same room as him if he’s going to continue to be like this?

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This is also like the woman who skipped a mandatory company event over environmental ethics, risking management backlash.

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She is already wiped out from pregnancy, but he is still firing up the computer the moment she tries to drift off.

After she has asked him to stop multiple times, the fact that he keeps doing it anyway starts to feel personal, not accidental.

The real twist is her being a light sleeper, because his “normal gaming noise” is her full-on wake-up alarm.

With bedtime battles stacking up, even the idea of leaving the room starts to sound like the only way she can actually rest.

How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.

If he cannot respect her sleep, she might need to sleep somewhere he is not.

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