Young Woman Doesn’t Want to Invite Her Aunt to Her Wedding Over Something That Happened Ten Years Ago, and Her Family Thinks She Should Get Over It
“The ax forgets, but the tree remembers.”
People behave in the way they are allowed to. They will keep pushing boundaries until they reach a wall.
That’s what parenting is about, for instance. Our job is to show our kids the boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed.
Unfortunately, some adults know nothing about boundaries and still need people around them to show them when they’ve crossed the line. The problem occurs when we don’t.
By ignoring these people’s constant exaggerations, lies, and dramas, we are, in fact, encouraging them. It is much easier just to ignore them, pretend we are listening, and simply wait it out.
Finally, they finish presenting their three-act dramas, and they leave. We don’t interrupt them; we just want it to be over as quickly as possible.
And this simply encourages them to continue. The next story will be more dramatic than the previous one. Where does it end?
One Redditor shared her problem. It involves a drama queen, self-absorbed aunt, and a wedding. Namely, OP doesn’t want to invite Aunt L to her wedding because of something she did ten years ago.
Her partner supports her, but her family believes she should get over it and invite Aunt L. Now she turns to the Reddit crowd for advice.
OP asks:
RedditOP is getting married next year and doesn't want to invite her Aunt L.
RedditOP explains her reasons:
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Her dad died when she was 15, and she took it especially hard because they were in the middle of patching up their relationship. And her Aunt L couldn't care less...
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She made a drama over something that never happened and made OP’s other aunts call her and scold her.
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After hearing OP's explanation, they all reacted with, "Oh well, that's just L; she likes to stir the pot. Never mind, babe."
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It seems like they all know L very well and don't take her seriously. But why did they berate OP then?
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Since then, OP has kept her distance from Aunt L.
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OP’s partner supports her decision, but her family thinks she should let go.
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"Aunty dearest" is known for incidents like these...
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Excellent line:
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And some people use it:
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Why are they allowed to be idiots, but I am not allowed to point it out?
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Some Redditors have similar problems:
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Aunt L can create problems at the wedding...
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This is a good question:
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And the answer is, sadly, very true....
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Some Redditors have people like Aunt L in their families.
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People don't want to confront these liars because it is just easier that way...
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“The ax forgets, but the tree remembers.”
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The bottom line - Aunt L acts the way she does because she is allowed to.
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It is clear that Aunt L did a terrible thing. Instead of being thoughtful and supportive to a teen who just lost her father, she makes up a story and gets her scolded.
The Reddit crowd supports OP 100%, and many of them believe inviting Aunt L is not a good idea – she might create another drama at the wedding, ruining the day for OP and her partner.
