Young Woman Doesn’t Want to Invite Her Aunt to Her Wedding Over Something That Happened Ten Years Ago, and Her Family Thinks She Should Get Over It
“The ax forgets, but the tree remembers.”
One family feud can sit quietly for years, then show up right when a wedding guest list is being finalized. That is exactly what happened to one young woman, who says she does not want her aunt at her wedding because of something that happened a decade ago.
The issue goes back to a painful time in her life, when her father died and her aunt allegedly made the situation worse instead of better. Now her partner supports her choice, but other relatives think she should move on and invite Aunt L anyway.
Reddit had thoughts, and plenty of them. The wedding drama is only getting messier.
OP asks:
RedditOP is getting married next year and doesn't want to invite her Aunt L.
RedditOP explains her reasons:
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Her dad died when she was 15, and she took it especially hard because they were in the middle of patching up their relationship. And her Aunt L couldn't care less...
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She made a drama over something that never happened and made OP’s other aunts call her and scold her.
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After hearing OP's explanation, they all reacted with, "Oh well, that's just L; she likes to stir the pot. Never mind, babe."
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It seems like they all know L very well and don't take her seriously. But why did they berate OP then?
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Since then, OP has kept her distance from Aunt L.
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OP’s partner supports her decision, but her family thinks she should let go.
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"Aunty dearest" is known for incidents like these...
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That family reputation says a lot.
And it gets messy fast, like in the AITA where Lisa’s heated argument led to someone refusing her family friend’s wedding invite.
Excellent line:
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And some people use it:
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Why are they allowed to be idiots, but I am not allowed to point it out?
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Some Redditors have similar problems:
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Aunt L can create problems at the wedding...
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This is a good question:
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And the answer is, sadly, very true....
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Some Redditors have people like Aunt L in their families.
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People don't want to confront these liars because it is just easier that way...
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“The ax forgets, but the tree remembers.”
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The bottom line - Aunt L acts the way she does because she is allowed to.
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Instead of being thoughtful and supportive to a teen who just lost her father, she makes up a story and gets her scolded.
The Reddit crowd supports OP 100%, and many of them believe inviting Aunt L is not a good idea, she might create another drama at the wedding, ruining the day for OP and her partner.
Was she wrong to keep Aunt L off the guest list?
Before you decide what to do about your aunt, read the cousin who considered skipping a wedding to avoid a feud with her family.
