Personal Life Coach and Lawyer Gives Important Lessons on How People Can Set Proper Boundaries in Their Lives

Olivia Vizachero, lawyer and life coach, dropped an Instagram thread that basically pulled the curtain back on the boundary chaos most people accidentally create. It started when she broke down a “proper boundary” like it was a real-world concept, not a vague self-help slogan.

The complicated part is that everyone thinks they know what a boundary is, until they try one and realize they were just using excuses. In her examples, people were told, “You can’t talk to me like that,” “You need to show up on time,” and “You need to do a better job,” but those got called out as not actually being boundaries.

And once you see the difference, you’ll notice exactly where your “boundaries” have been turning into arguments.

Olivia Vizachero, a Lawyer and Personal Life Coach, Shared an Illuminating Thread on Her Instagram Where She Explained What a Proper Boundary Is

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Meet Olivia Vizachero, a lawyer and personal life counselor who helps people live lives with much less stress and far more fulfillment."

We have compiled lessons from her insights for your reading pleasure. Scroll down to enlighten yourselves further.

Some Examples of Boundaries That Aren't Actually Boundaries

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You Can't Talk to Me Like That

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You Need to Show Up on Time

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You Need to Do a Better Job

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Here Is What Boundaries Are Not

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Instead, Here Is What a Boundary Is

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It really helps to worry less about what other individuals think, how to accomplish what they want to do instead, and how to set objectives and follow through with achieving them. The problem with setting boundaries is that people claim to value and prioritize them, but only a few know how to do so.

Here are some comments from people who appreciated the lesson.

A Ridiculously Applicable Boundary

prespierso

Helpful Tips

amyfedermanauthor

A Learning Process

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The Number You're Looking For

RowanUnderwood

What This Commenter Did Instead

squidiom

If Then Else Statement

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Just Inquiring

HonestlyNotARobot

This Commenter Is Thanking the Smart Lady

twentytunes

You Have to Set Your Boundaries Yourself

hardlyxconstipated

Fantastic Examples

hannaneng

The thread got messier as commenters weighed in with takes like “Being Loose with the Definition” and “Gatekeeping Boundary Settings,” after Olivia laid out “Here Is What Boundaries Are Not.”</p>

Also, check out how one worker handled a nosy coworker invading personal space.

Then came the shift from “Healthy Relationships with Work” to “Enforcing Your Boundary,” where the conversation moved from feelings to actual next steps when someone crosses the line.</p>

"As a result of working with me, people truly get to lead the lives they've been dreaming of. It is the most fulfilling job imaginable," Vizachero says.

Some people didn't agree with the coach's view, and they had this to say:

Boundaries Written by Jeff Bezos

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Sentiment Is Great

anerdwithaknife

Being Loose with the Definition

Cidikus

Why Do You Have to Explain More?

alisesanchez

They Are Specific to Behaviors

ThePonderer99

Healthy Relationships with Work

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Gatekeeping Boundary Settings

nadosaram

They Are Often Hard to Apply

cadesama

Enforcing Your Boundary

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Assertive Versus Poor Communication Styles

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Well, we've learned some important things here.

The family dinner did not end well, because nobody agreed on what counted as a real boundary.

For a real boundary blowup, read about the friend who overwhelmed someone with trust issues.