Man Abandons His Wife And Child, Then Asks Them To Fund His New Baby

When it comes to co-parenting, communication and limits are key to ensuring the child's needs are met. The differences between a child's mother and father can vary greatly depending on their relationship, communication, and level of involvement.

Some may have a cooperative co-parenting relationship, while others may have a more strained or distant dynamic. Regardless of the circumstances, it's crucial to focus on the child's needs and prioritize their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.

The OP of today's story found herself in a complicated situation with her baby daddy, who had abruptly left her and their one-year-old child. After reaching out to apologize, he asked OP for money to support his new family, which she refused.

Come to think of it though - this man ought to be providing for the child he has with the OP. But here he is asking for money to cater to his kids with another woman.

Later, when OP's child needed Tylenol, her ex offered to help by sending it across. Now, he's expecting the OP to return the favor by sending money for his sick child from a different relationship.

OP is hesitant to oblige, citing her own financial struggles and the fact that his child has other caregivers who can provide support. Read on to find out more about this enraging story.

The OP writes...

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The OP has to take care of her own kids and they are in need

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The OP had to give the money back that she borrowed to get her baby some Tylenol

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There is no reason they can't care for their own child like the OP does

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

The action that I took to be judge was basically no action to help a sick child that was not my own while sick. I wouldn't want someone to not help my sick child if they could but at the same time I am the only one that is active.

A few comments from other Redditors

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The OP can't be serious

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Child support

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That's beyond broke

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Later on, the OP left an edit saying:

This is the straw that broke the camel's back and I, usually, feeling the need to help others WAS feeling bad for not helping but has since cut contact and will not in the future look to make contact with or talk to him. I am not defending him or anything just want people to stop reaching. I was in between money when he called, something that can happen to anyone, and thought he would be able to help at the time. When I realized he would not be helping, I got help from someone else and immediately repaid my debt.

And the comments continues...

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Being so concerned

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He abandoned the OP

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Getting child support

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OP's baby daddy is clearly trying to shift the burden of childcare onto her, while he prioritizes his own needs and those of his new family. By refusing to send money, OP is standing firm in her decision to prioritize her own child's needs.

It's not about being vindictive, but about setting limits and recognizing that her ex has his own support system for his child. Given the circumstances, it's clear that OP is not in the wrong for not sending him money, and many Redditors attested to that.