Man Abandons His Wife And Child, Then Asks Them To Fund His New Baby

A 28-year-old woman refused to keep playing “backup parent” for her ex, after he abandoned her and their child, then popped back up asking her to fund his new baby. It’s one of those situations where the audacity is almost impressive, until you realize it’s not a game for anyone involved. When she couldn’t cover everything, he apparently wanted her to send money anyway, even after she had borrowed cash to get her baby sick with Tylenol. OP also says she ended up having to repay a debt she took on, because he wasn’t stepping up.

Now he’s getting pushback, and OP has cut contact for good.

The OP writes...

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The OP has to take care of her own kids and they are in need

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The OP had to give the money back that she borrowed to get her baby some Tylenol

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There is no reason they can't care for their own child like the OP does

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OP didn’t just say no, she said she had to cover her own kid’s needs and even repaid the money she borrowed for Tylenol.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

The action that I took to be judge was basically no action to help a sick child that was not my own while sick. I wouldn't want someone to not help my sick child if they could but at the same time I am the only one that is active.

A few comments from other Redditors

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The OP can't be serious

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Child support

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That's beyond broke

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That’s when the ex’s “help my new baby” request collided with the fact he abandoned OP and their child in the first place.

And if you need a palate cleanser after the “fund my new baby” fight, these Valentine’s surprises stole the spotlight.

Once OP realized he wasn’t going to help her back, she got help from someone else and immediately repaid her debt.

Later on, the OP left an edit saying:

This is the straw that broke the camel's back and I, usually, feeling the need to help others WAS feeling bad for not helping but has since cut contact and will not in the future look to make contact with or talk to him. I am not defending him or anything just want people to stop reaching. I was in between money when he called, something that can happen to anyone, and thought he would be able to help at the time. When I realized he would not be helping, I got help from someone else and immediately repaid my debt.

And the comments continues...

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Being so concerned

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He abandoned the OP

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Getting child support

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After the straw that broke the camel’s back, OP stopped answering calls, and Redditors immediately jumped to “child support” and “he’s shifting the burden.”

OP's baby daddy is clearly trying to shift the burden of childcare onto her, while he prioritizes his own needs and those of his new family. By refusing to send money, OP is standing firm in her decision to prioritize her own child's needs.

It's not about being vindictive, but about setting limits and recognizing that her ex has his own support system for his child.

Nobody wants to keep funding a guy’s new family while he skips out on the one he already created.

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