Redditors Support Grieving Mom Who Snapped at Her Own Mom for Urging Her to Speed Up Her Child’s Funeral

Death is a painful experience, and it is even more painful for the family and loved ones of the deceased. No one prays for death, but we can’t tell when it comes knocking.

People often go out of their way to organize a fitting funeral for their deceased loved ones. Sometimes, planning a proper event might take some time to organize.

For this Redditor who lost her six-day-old baby, she took her time planning her baby’s funeral since even a child’s funeral can be expensive. However, she felt the need to take her concerns to the AITA subreddit community to hear their verdict about her actions.

According to her story, the OP’s mother had been pestering her to get the funeral done as soon as possible "because, in her culture, people's funerals happen a few days after their death." However, the OP was saving up to give her child a well-deserved funeral, and she was getting fed up with her mother’s constant nagging.

One day, she snapped at her and told her to pay for the entire funeral if she was so desperate to speed up the process. The OP’s mom was upset by her remarks, but we’ll let you read the full story and be the judge of that.

Here is the headline...

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My daughter died from SIDS

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My mom wants it over and done with

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I finally snapped at her

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She was trying to honor her culture

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With over 19K upvotes and more than a thousand comments, the post had Redditors sympathizing with the OP over her loss. Here are some of their most upvoted comments.

1. A similar story from a Redditor

Alisaurusrex82

2. Take your time and do what's best

whatjealousyis

3. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, and you have a free pass to do what you please

thankuhexed

4. The grieving parents can do whatever they plan to

NUT-me-SHELL

5. Don't harass a grieving woman who has lost her child

Kayhowardhlots

6. The OP gave more insight into the situation

marheena

7. "The emotional IQ of a tomato"

HippieInAHelicopter

8. Broken-hearted people sometimes misdirect their emotions

Abd36u

9. Her culture is irrelevant here

SirEDCaLot

10. It was actually a reasonable suggestion

Lawn_Orderly

11. Her culture does not supersede your need to grieve properly

Legitimate_Essay_221

12. Having your mother pressure you while grieving isn't right

Dork86

13. What your mom said is very rude

Primary-Criticism929

14. Your mom should not hound you like that

H_H_B

15. Nobody should hurry you into something you aren't ready for

NmlsFool

16. Pressuring you is totally out of line

VixNeko

17. The last thing you need is to be pushed around

Megmca

18. That is awful

Shot_Western_2755

19. Your child died, and they should be more considerate

Adventurous_Aide_456

20. Everyone mourns differently, so take your time

middlingwhiteguy

It’s not easy for anyone grieving a loved one, especially when the deceased is their flesh and blood. People ought to let the grieving be and not pressure them into doing what they are not ready for.

But did the OP handle the situation the right way? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.