Redditors Support Grieving Mom Who Snapped at Her Own Mom for Urging Her to Speed Up Her Child’s Funeral
No one prays for death, but we can’t tell when it comes knocking.
A grieving mother found herself at the center of a family argument after her own mom kept pushing her to speed up her baby’s funeral.
The Redditor had lost her six-day-old child to SIDS and was trying to save up for the funeral, but her mother wanted it done quickly because that was how things were done in her culture. As the pressure kept building, the exhausted mom finally snapped and told her mother to pay for the whole thing if she wanted it rushed so badly.
Reddit had plenty to say about that moment, and the reactions were immediate. Read on.
Here is the headline...
u/funeral038181My daughter died from SIDS
u/funeral038181My mom wants it over and done with
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I finally snapped at her
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She was trying to honor her culture
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With over 19K upvotes and more than a thousand comments, the post had Redditors sympathizing with the OP over her loss. Here are some of their most upvoted comments.
This comment brought up a similar experience.
1. A similar story from a Redditor
Alisaurusrex82
2. Take your time and do what's best
whatjealousyis
3. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, and you have a free pass to do what you please
thankuhexed
Another commenter kept it simple.
4. The grieving parents can do whatever they plan to
NUT-me-SHELL
5. Don't harass a grieving woman who has lost her child
Kayhowardhlots
6. The OP gave more insight into the situation
marheena
This one did not hold back.
It’s a different kind of grief, but this is similar to siblings fighting over dividing their late mother’s unpaid bills.
7. "The emotional IQ of a tomato"
HippieInAHelicopter
8. Broken-hearted people sometimes misdirect their emotions
Abd36u
9. Her culture is irrelevant here
SirEDCaLot
10. It was actually a reasonable suggestion
Lawn_Orderly
11. Her culture does not supersede your need to grieve properly
Legitimate_Essay_221
More readers piled on with the same message.
12. Having your mother pressure you while grieving isn't right
Dork86
13. What your mom said is very rude
Primary-Criticism929
14. Your mom should not hound you like that
H_H_B
15. Nobody should hurry you into something you aren't ready for
NmlsFool
16. Pressuring you is totally out of line
VixNeko
17. The last thing you need is to be pushed around
Megmca
18. That is awful
Shot_Western_2755
19. Your child died, and they should be more considerate
Adventurous_Aide_456
20. Everyone mourns differently, so take your time
middlingwhiteguy
It’s not easy for anyone grieving a loved one, especially when the deceased is their flesh and blood. People ought to let the grieving be and not pressure them into doing what they are not ready for.
But did the OP handle the situation the right way? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
That family tension clearly ran deep.
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