Family Rift Grows After New Mom Learns Sister-In-Law Plans To Use Her Twins’ Name
This new mom is adamant that the name holds extreme significance in her life and shouldn’t be used by anyone else in the family.
After six failed IVF transfers, five years of waiting, the OP (Original Poster) of this story finally hit the jackpot with a set of twin girls.
In addition, OP made sure to give them names that described her adoration of the girls in the most appropriate way.
For her, every part of those names mattered, especially a middle name chosen to honor her grandmother who passed shortly before the twins were born.
That sense of meaning is why a recent discovery within the family hit harder than expected.
Apparently, OP’s sister-in-law (SIL), someone she’s close with, is expecting her first child and plans to use the same name for her own baby.
While no one technically owns a name, this one carries emotional weight that goes far beyond preference.
This discovery hit OP deeply, as she felt SIL was being disrespectful with her choice. Consequently, OP’s husband raised it with his mother, but was told to back down and avoid approaching SIL directly.
The message was clear to him: Say nothing and trust that someone else might gently suggest alternatives. Meanwhile, the name continues to hover in the background, unspoken but heavy.
OP’s husband eventually asked her to let it go, as he believes it’s out of their hands and not worth stirring conflict. But OP isn’t willing to do so. She feels dismissed and hurt.
Read through the screenshots below to see how it all unfolded.
Let’s dig into the details
Reddit.comOP was furious after discovering that her SIL was planning to name her daughter the same name as her (OP’s) twin girls. This is because, the name has extreme significance to OP
Reddit.comOP’s husband discussed this with his mom, but she banned them from directly bringing it up to SIL. Rather, she promised to handle it her own way
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OP’s husband later asked her to let it go, but she was adamant that SIL’s choice was disrespectful to her
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OP decided to bring the case before the Reddit jury for deliberation
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Important edit
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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“I think it would be different if the child had the same first names but Rose is such a common name and you can’t lay claim to it.”
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“Do not get to dictate to anyone else what they can or cannot name their own child!”
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“YTA It's a name. Lots of people share names. You don't own ‘rose’, FFS.”
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“You are being very ridiculous. And, no, just to be clear, it is not ‘inconsiderate’ to your daughter.”
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“YTA - a middle name doesn’t hold the same significance as a first name and you don’t own the name.”
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The Reddit community has slammed OP for her stance on this matter. The’ve made it clear that no one can lay claim to any name, and thus, SIL has every right to use it.
We can’t say for sure if SIL will choose something different, but we do hope that whatever the choice may be, it doesn’t cause a major rift within the family.
What do you think about this story? Do you feel OP has a point or is she just overreacting?
