Man Cries Out As He's Tired Of Bailing His Wife While Pushing Her To File For Child Support

A man on Reddit is at his breaking point after spending months bailing out his wife, and now he wants her to finally file for child support. He says he’s been covering her rent and bills so they can stay afloat, even though the situation is already messy and emotionally loaded.

The complication? Their housing plan is tied to a move he helped make happen, and he claims her share of the current apartment costs keeps landing back on him. He also says she “died on the hill” about not working with the plan, which has left him stuck paying what he believes should be her responsibility, all while their daughter is involved.

So when he pushes the child support idea, he’s not asking to get rich, he’s trying to stop paying for a situation that keeps shifting under him.

The OP kicks off his story

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They needed to get ahead of the month's rent

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OP says that it’s only her share because she died on the hill about their current apartment

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OP's at the point where he wants to stop covering her shortfall on rent/bills and insist that she file for child support

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That’s when he starts explaining how they needed to get ahead of the month’s rent, and he’s the one consistently covering the gap.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I feel accomplished for taking her out of that space but feel like the AH for needing her to come from the space she’s going into now. I lamented regularly about these topics with her so for me to correct my thinking if it’s wrong or adjust my ideas/ approach could save a looot of cortisol from being produced.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

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This echoes the solo diner arguing over tipping under 10%, where everyone has strong opinions.

The most common errors on the legal forums

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The OP has just got bills

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The OP is getting high everyday?

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She spent the money on her daughter

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Marriages are supposed to be partnerships

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The OP might just move on

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They are both in this together

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Then he drops the part where he claims it’s “only her share,” because he says she refused to stay aligned with their current apartment plan.

After that, he argues that he wants her to file for child support so he can stop being the default backstop for rent and bills.

And just like that, the comments zero in on the wife spending money on their daughter and the OP getting accused of trying to use child support to control parenting time.

In reality, the court views child support that one parent pays to the other as beneficial to the child rather than the parent. It is not a benefit to withhold child support when parenting time is rejected, nor is it a magic bullet for securing parenting time.

For the other parent, it is not a quick way to become wealthy. The OP just wants his wife to make a good decision which in turn would help and benefit the family.

The OP was declared not the AH and that's a wrap.

He might just be tired of paying for a marriage that keeps costing him rent, not peace.

For another tough safety vs family-support standoff, read about insisting a mentally struggling sibling move out.