Man Tells His Bilingual Wife Not To Teach Their Twin Daughters Her Native Language
He's afraid that when they grow up, they'll start talking behind his back. SMH.
A bilingual family argument is getting a lot more complicated than it should be. One father says his twin daughters should stick to English, while their mother wants them to learn her native language too.
The couple already has English in common, but the husband worries the girls do not need a second language and fears they may use it to talk behind his back. Their mother sees things differently, and the disagreement has turned into a bigger question about identity, family, and what the twins should grow up speaking.
Now the internet is weighing in, and the comments are not holding back.
She's right, tbh. The more languages a child learns, the better it is for them.
Reddit / babybumps_But he disagrees and doesn't want his girls to learn their mother's native language.
Reddit / babybumps_The girls will grow up trilingual, either way.
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This question was all it took for over 400 people to comment.
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Great point.
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He can learn her native language, too.
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True.
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Being bilingual will help them in the future.
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The twins and her husband should learn too.
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This also feels like the debate over in-laws’ money with controlling strings.
This is true.
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That's an awesome reminder.
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Wow, this is an eye-opener.
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Being bilingual is a huge advantage.
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If he's concerned, he should learn it too.
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Agreed.
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Yep, agreed.
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Give children an opportunity to learn a new language!
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LOL.
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This is right.
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That set off a familiar debate in the comments.
Being bilingual is a blessing in disguise if you think about it. You might not realize it now, but as the kids grow, each language they speak will open up a unique set of opportunities for them.
That's wonderful, isn't it?
If you have the means to raise your child bilingual, don't waste that opportunity. They’ll thank you later.
And she's right!
People have not always been in favor of children being bilingual. A long time ago, experts and researchers believed that learning to speak two languages could affect a person's thinking abilities.
They believed that language could change a person's memories, values, and even personality. Therefore, speaking two languages could alter a person's character.
Until the 19th century, experts believed that learning a second language would not only confuse children but also prevent them from speaking any language fluently.
But all that changed when experts realized that learning a second language, at any age, could provide the mental stimulation a person needs to remain healthy.
I think babybumps_ should follow her heart, knowing that bilingualism will benefit her girls in the long run. As far as her husband is concerned, a polite in-depth conversation is all he needs to understand her point of view and for her to understand his.
What do you think about being bilingual? Let us know in the comments below!
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