20-Year-Old Woman Wants Her Boyfriend To Learn How To Do Basic Chores Before They Start Living Together Because She Doesn’t Want To Be His Mom Or Teacher

Leaving the family home is an important milestone in life. However, moving in together with a partner is even more significant.

It shows commitment and love. One wise person once said that you could learn more in five minutes of living together than in five years of dating.

Therefore, it is always advisable to live together for a while before getting married, and there is a good reason for it. It's wonderful, but it can also be stressful.

No matter how much a couple tries to convince themselves that they are perfect for each other and already know everything there is to know about one another, living together may change their minds. So it's fantastic when individuals take the effort to plan for this step and anticipate what can go wrong.

At least, that's what happened to Reddit user @napsandhugs, who was wondering if she was wrong for refusing to teach her partner how to perform some basic housework.

She posted her problem on the AITA subreddit and asked for help from people there to help her decide. The situation, which gained over 15k likes, sparked a discussion among other online users who shared their thoughts and experiences.

Let us take a look at her problem:

Is it smart to start living with someone totally inexperienced in doing house chores?

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OP and her BF are thinking of moving in together

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But she is afraid that BF is not ready because his mom is doing everything for him

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He doesn't know how to cook, clean, or handle money...

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She is scared of becoming some sort of a parent/teacher in the relationship

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OP wants to teach him how to cook, but he will have to ask his mom for cleaning and other chores.

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Needless to say, BF is angry about her lack of faith in him.

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OP has her priorities and wishes, and parenting him is not one of them.

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His 'We will figure it out as we go' doesn't sit well with her

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So she asks if she is right

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Redditors say - Yes!

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Laundry is not brain surgery. Neither is operating a vacuum cleaner.

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At 24, he shouldn't rely on his mom for everything

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Some Redditors shared their experiences:

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One male Redditor gave OP good advice

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Cooking can be tough. It does require some talent. Cleaning and laundry don't.

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No, you figure it out first!

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Some Redditors asked if BF really needs to be taught. It is pretty simple - once you have no choice, you have to do it. And that's how you learn.

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The answer is somewhere in the middle

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This could also happen:

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Well, this is a tough one. The OP is definitely right about some things, but she may be too judgmental.

Yes, his mom does everything for him, but he lives there, and moms tend to do that for their kids, no matter how old they are. In most cases, once young people move out, they learn to cook and do chores for one simple reason – they have no choice.

That's the best motivation of them all.