Her Ex Dumped Her Via Text Message After 10 Years - Now He’s Ghosting Her Over $2,000 And Some Books

After ten years together, this Redditor never imagined her relationship would end with a breakup text and a very awkward money situation. But here she is, newly single and wondering whether she’s about to become the villain in her own story.

The OP explains that her ex ended things because his family disapproved of her background, which is a major deal where she lives. He fought them for months, eventually gave in, and is now expected to get married soon.

During their decade-long relationship, the Redditor financially supported him while he ran a business. She loaned him around $2,000.

Money isn’t the only thing missing, though. The ex also borrowed several books belonging to both the OP and her older brother, and never returned them.

A month after the breakup, the Redditor reached out politely asking for the money and books back. Instead of responding, her ex read the message and stayed silent.

Now two months have passed, and the OP is torn. She’s considering sending a legal notice to formally demand her belongings, but feels conflicted.

She knows her ex is struggling financially and mentally, which makes the decision even harder. While she believes she deserves her things back quickly, she worries taking legal action might be an unfair move.

To complicate matters, he lives in a different city. Visiting him in person isn’t an option.

So now the Redditor is stuck between being patient and standing up for herself. Is it time to get legal, or should she quietly let it go and move on?

The Redditor was left on read after reaching out and politely asking for the money and books back.

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Here’s the original post by Reddit user ‘PhilosophyStudent91’.

TLDR: Ex who broke up after a decade over text owes me family books and $2000. Not responding to my texts now. He's struggling financially I know. Should I legally make my demand or let it go?Full context: My now ex and I were in a relationship for a decade and he recently broke up with me because his family doesn't approve of my family background (a huge thing here in my country). From what he told me he fought them for a few months but gave in and is likely going to be married soon.He runs a business and during the course of our being a couple I had lent (clearly statedly so) to him in small parts around 150000 ₹ (around $ 2000 but here my monthly earning is 500 $ for scale). He also borrowed a lot of books from me and my elder brother that he holds. Now a month after he broke up with me over text, I asked him to send the money and books in the coming days. He left me on read.It's been 2 months to this. I'm thinking of sending him a legal notice to demand my things. I know he's financially and mentally struggling so even though I think I deserve my stuff back ASAP I'm worried it will be an AH move. What do you guys think?P.S. He lives in a different city so visiting him in Covid times is impossible or I would have gone to see him at his office.

Let’s see how the Reddit community reacted.

MamaJunesBackFat

He owes you.

217liz

His struggles are no longer your concern.

Babsgarcia

Lawyer up!

whitewer

He needs to at least return the books.

snewton_8

You’re entitled to what’s yours.

First-Associate-577

He doesn’t have good intentions.

Iyan-cat

That’s your stuff!

Deleted user

His struggles aren’t an excuse.

WebbieVanderquack

Deal with it before he gets married.

Piercedbunny

You need to get what you’re owed.

PsychologyAutomatic3

You don’t owe him anything.

PrisonNurseNC

See if he ignores a lawsuit!

0drag

In the end, the Redditor isn’t questioning whether she deserves her money and books back — she knows she does. What she’s really struggling with is whether protecting herself now makes her heartless, or simply realistic.

After a decade of compromise and a breakup she never saw coming, this might be the final line she has to draw. Sometimes closure isn’t emotional at all — it’s just getting back what was always yours and finally moving forward.