Family Has A Dispute Over Rule Made By The Groom For His Wedding

Almost everyone has heard of the "no ring, no bring" policy, and those who have will undoubtedly have strong feelings about it.

What does it mean when someone says "no ring, no bring"? The phrase refers to the fact that a guest cannot bring a plus one unless they are married or engaged to that person.

It's intended to cut down on the number of guests and ensure that your wedding photos don't include random strangers or Tinder dates. However, the 'no ring, no bring' rule is contentious.

It doesn't matter how long a couple has been together; all that matters is that someone has a ring on their finger. Even if you've been with your partner for more than five years (as the brother of the groom has!), you may find yourself alone at the ceremony.

If you don't know many of the other guests, you may have a lonely evening, and your friendships may come to an end. There are several apparent reasons why the new plus-one rule of "no ring, no bring" is gaining traction, and it's all part of a more significant trend toward more intimate weddings and a better guest experience.

If you want to drastically reduce your guest list and save a lot of money, you can use this rule. Additionally, no bride wants to walk down the aisle to a sea of unfamiliar faces.

You did the right thing by standing by your girlfriend's side and asking your brother to reconsider the rule.

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Everyone expects to have a partner when attending a wedding, especially if it's the wedding of a family member.

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Instead of sorting things out like a mature person, the groom decides to call the whole family.

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He was not altering the wedding itself, just one rule that was not going to affect anyone in any way.

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Isn't it a tradition for someone to actually propose to their better half at a close relative's wedding?

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The groom expects OP to support him but does not want to support OP.

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Yes, but as your brother, the groom should have understood your feelings and allowed you to bring your girlfriend.

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As your brother, he definitely knows about your relationship, and despite that, he imposes such a rule for his wedding.

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It certainly seems that way!

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After crossing the five-year mark, it is quite obvious that they have officially accepted each other, even if not legally married.

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Why do I suspect the family is doing this so that the girlfriend cannot attend the wedding?

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People expect everyone to be happy on their big day, and when guests cannot bring their better half, how can they truly enjoy the wedding?

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Since it's your big day, you can make as many rules as you want that may offend others, but be prepared to enjoy your wedding alone.

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This is really ridiculous; the groom is about to get married but is acting like a child.

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What a perfect way to get your girlfriend to the wedding without breaking the rule.

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Exactly, they could personally decide that if they know the plus one, they are invited; otherwise, they aren't.

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If they really wanted her to attend the wedding, they would have considered it.

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This is the whole point of 'no ring, no bring' and not to exclude a long-term girlfriend from an important family event.

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This makes me wonder why the groom didn't allow his brother to bring his girlfriend!

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Exactly, if it's his wedding and his rules, then it is also your life and your rules, so don't go!

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An exception for their siblings is definitely no big deal; they aren't distant after all.

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The groom could have amended the rules for his brother or immediate family but instead decided to make it an issue.

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What if some people are in a live-in relationship and have kids but aren't married yet?

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No ring, no bring is a good way to avoid having unknown faces immortalized in your wedding images. Also, when you pull out the wedding photos in five years, no one wants to be guessing the identity of your cousin's Bumble affair.

Share this story with all your loved ones and tell them how to implement this rule. Also, comment and let us know what you would do if you were in OP's place.