Redditor Gets In Trouble For Skipping Relative's Burial To Keep Their Follow-Up Dental Appointment

A 28-year-old woman skipped her relative’s burial because she was trying to make it to a follow-up dental appointment, and the fallout hit her at the worst possible time. Cars were literally blocked from leaving the cemetery, so OP scrambled, called a friend with a car, and got to the dentist just in time.

But the burial was still missed. OP thought it wouldn’t matter, until a relative of the deceased pulled her aside at the luncheon and asked, “How are your teeth?” That one comment turned a rushed decision into an all-out family judgment moment, with people weighing whether her health appointment was worth stepping away from the funeral.

Here’s the full story, and it’s messier than anyone expected.

Cars were blocked from leaving the cemetery, so OP called a friend who was on his way to the cemetery to ask if they could borrow his car to go to the dentist.

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OP met their friend at the cemetery's entrance. They missed the burial but reached their appointment just in time.

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The situation surrounding the Redditor's choice to prioritize a dental appointment over attending their husband's uncle's funeral underscores a common struggle many face between personal needs and social obligations. The decision to skip such a significant family event raises questions about the weight individuals place on their own health versus familial duties, particularly in emotionally charged circumstances like funerals.

This particular case illuminates the often unspoken tension that arises when personal commitments clash with the expectations of family and society. The emotional fallout from such a decision can lead to feelings of guilt and conflict, which are significant factors that affect overall well-being. As this Redditor navigates the consequences of their choice, it serves as a reminder of the delicate balance we must maintain between caring for ourselves and honoring our responsibilities to those we love.

OP thought they weren't missed, but a relative of the deceased approached them at the luncheon.

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The relative asked, "How are your teeth?" OP thought what they did was not a big deal but couldn't help but feel guilty after the remark.

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OP missed the burial, but they still made it to the dentist, and that’s where the side-eye started.

When individuals prioritize personal needs over social obligations, it can lead to feelings of isolation and guilt.

OP received a mixture of reactions. The most upvoted comment judged that OP was the a**hole.

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They also questioned why OP and their husband didn't change their providers, given that they have lived in their new place for several years.

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Right after the blocked-cars scramble, the relative at the luncheon went straight for the “How are your teeth?” jab.

This reminds me of the AITA argument over a strict vacation itinerary, where the partner clash escalated.

Effective communication is essential for managing expectations in relationships, particularly during emotionally charged events.

Encouraging open dialogue can help partners feel respected and understood.

Some Redditors said OP was fine. They only missed the burial part of the ceremony, which plenty of people, except for close family and friends, skipped anyway.

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Another Redditor said that while they could relate to OP's decision-making, it was still an a**hole move not to reschedule a non-urgent dental appointment.

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After that remark, the comment section didn’t hold back, with the top vote calling OP the a**hole.

To foster healthier interactions, individuals might consider discussing their feelings and needs regarding social obligations openly.

Creating a supportive environment where all parties can express their concerns can significantly enhance emotional intimacy and understanding.

Simply put, it was disrespectful to skip a relative's funeral to keep an appointment that could have been delayed.

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But Redditors also pointed out that OP's husband approved their plans. OP's main role was to support their husband. If he said it was fine, why was it a big offense to Redditors?

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Even the follow-up details got dragged in, like why OP and their husband didn’t switch providers after living in their new place for years.

It's like that scene from Friends where Ross still sees his pediatrician when he's sick. OP and their husband need to do the adult thing before an armchair psychologist, Redditor, suggests that they are holding onto a part of their childhood by refusing to switch to new medical providers in their new city.

It would be more convenient to find new doctors and clinics in their new town, especially since they have long hours at work. The consensus was that OP was disrespectful, but they were not a bad person for missing a relative's burial.

They did encourage OP to find new medical providers, something that is typically accomplished within six months of a move to a new city.

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OP should ask locals about reputable doctors and clinics to handle their medical needs from now on.

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Social dynamics play a significant role in shaping individual behavior during challenging situations.

Recognizing these pressures can help individuals make more informed decisions that honor their needs while respecting social norms.

The situation faced by the Redditor underscores the delicate balance between personal health priorities and familial obligations.

The family dinner did not end well, and OP’s teeth became the least of her problems.

For more friendship fallout, read why someone skipped a wedding after a borrowed dress went wrong.