Name Calling Ensues As Man Wants His GF To Pay Her Share Of His Car Expenses
"They said it's your car and clearly you offered to drive me to work"
A 28-year-old woman refused to cover her share of car expenses, and it turned into a full-on Reddit comment war. OP thought it was simple, split the costs, keep the relationship moving. But the moment money and transportation got tied to a real-world medical restriction, everyone had opinions, and not the kind that stay polite.
The twist is that she cannot drive right now due to epilepsy, controlled with meds, with the law requiring at least five seizure-free years before she can get behind the wheel. She is working on getting a normal job and getting around, but OP says he has been helping her adapt since her condition hit in 2022. Still, he expected her to pay her portion of his car expenses out of her own pocket, and he didn’t give her a menu of alternative arrangements.
Now he’s stuck reading the internet’s verdict, and it might make him rethink who really should be paying for the rides.
Read the full story below and find out
RedditThis is entirely reasonable
RedditIt was basically expected of the OP
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And finally...
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The OP starts by admitting he might be wrong for expecting her to pay from her own pocket without offering other options.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
I feel like I might be the AH because I expect her to pay me out of her own pocket and didn't give her an option to come to another agreement with me.
The reddit post got more than a thousand comments and here are some of them
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The OP can stop driving her
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The OP should run from the inlaws
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The OP's not in the US
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Then the comments pounce, with people telling him to stop driving her, run from the in-laws, and even questioning whether he’s in the US.
This feels similar to the OP who questioned their sister’s daycare choice, sparking family discord.
When OP fights back, he explains the epilepsy timeline, the driving ban, and why the “just adapt earlier” take ignores how long the ban lasts.
"Her illness is her problem, she should've adapted way earlier" and the OP replied saying...
Yes and no. Yes, she's the one who needs to adapt. No, it's not that easy. She never got her license because she never needed to (public transport here is ok compared to the rest of the world), and she was on her way to get hers. Then, she fell sick with a neurological condition in 2022. Unfortunately, the long term damage it has left was Epilepsy.We have the seizures under control with meds, but as per the law, she's banned from driving until she's had no seizures on record for at least 5 years. That's still 4.5 years out. I played a vital part in her even surviving the sickness, so I feel kind of responsible for helping her adapt. Part of that adaptation is working a normal job and getting there.
And the comments continues...
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Taking an uber
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The OP can't afford it
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She's not a partner
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After Uber suggestions and “she’s not a partner” arguments fly around, OP insists they did agree on how to handle it, and the verdict lands in his favor.
The OP says that they did come to an agreement, and they are still together. He also mentioned that he has been on Reddit for around 14 years now, and he knows that most people immediately jump to "red flag, break up," but that's not how it works.
They have had much bigger fights and have been together for close to 8 years, so it's worth fighting for. In the end, the OP was declared not the AH.
In the end, the car bill wasn’t the real problem, the rules were.
For another AITA blowup, read what happened after the OP dropped a shocking confession at family game night.
