Redditor Doesn't Want To Spend 4 Hours In A Car With Her Mother-In-Law For Thanksgiving Weekend

A 28-year-old woman refused to spend four hours in a car with her mother-in-law for Thanksgiving weekend, and now she can’t stop replaying whether her reaction was “too much.” Her husband and she split the holidays between their families every year, so this is not some random detour. It’s a recurring plan, and she’s trying to stick to it without getting pulled into a ride situation that feels like a trap.

The complication is simple but loaded, her rule is that she never goes anywhere without her own car. Her husband’s family rarely accepts that kind of boundary, and when her mother-in-law brought up carpooling, OP shut it down fast. She doesn’t want to depend on them as her ride, which sounds reasonable to her, but her request is now getting questioned.

So the question is not just carpooling, it’s whether OP’s “no” is going to blow up the whole Thanksgiving plan.

OP is looking for opinions because she struggles with her reactions

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OP and her husband split the holidays between their families every year

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OP has a rule that she never goes anywhere without her car

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That’s when the usual holiday split starts feeling less like a tradition and more like a fight between OP’s rules and her husband’s family’s expectations.

The complexities of family dynamics are clearly at play in this Thanksgiving travel dilemma.

OP's refusal to attend activities is rarely accepted by her husband's family

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OP's mother-in-law mentioned carpooling, and OP was against it

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OP doesn't want to depend on them as her ride

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OP is now wondering if her request is unreasonable

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Two choices

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A simple solution

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Her mother-in-law suggested carpooling for the Thanksgiving weekend, and OP immediately shot it down because she doesn’t want to rely on them for transportation.

And if you think in-law tension is bad, check out the group trip fight over splitting expenses equally.

Meanwhile OP is stuck thinking about the four-hour car ride, the kind where being trapped with her mother-in-law turns every conversation into a test.

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More than reasonable

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Edibles for everyone

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Enabler husband

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Now OP is weighing whether her “never without my car” policy is more than reasonable or if she’s accidentally making things worse for everyone at the dinner table.

Who can blame her?

Prioritizing self-care is crucial for navigating challenging family dynamics.

The intricacies of family dynamics often come to the forefront during holiday gatherings, and this Redditor's struggle is a prime example. With Thanksgiving approaching, the tension of spending four hours in a car with her mother-in-law encapsulates the emotional hurdles many face in similar situations. The article highlights the importance of recognizing personal boundaries and advocating for them, which can significantly improve the quality of family interactions. As OP grapples with her feelings, it serves as a reminder that open communication about comfort levels is essential in navigating these complex relationships.

The family dinner did not end well, and OP is still wondering if she should have just swallowed the four hours.

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