A Psychologist Warns Of The Rise Of "Lonely, Single Men," And The Internet Thinks It's Funny

A psychologist's warning about lonely, single men has the internet doing what it does best, turning a serious topic into a full-blown joke. The piece points to dating apps, rising standards, and weak relationship skills as part of the reason some straight men are struggling to find partners.

That has struck a nerve with women who say they have been talking about this dating shift for years, and with men who do not like hearing it framed so bluntly. The result is a mix of validation, backlash, and plenty of roasting.

Here is how the internet reacted.

"The Rise of Lonely, Single Men"

Gotta appreciate the "Key Points" section for providing a quick overview.

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Essentially, the majority of single men are affected by this and will continue to be

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Dr. Matos offers three trends that may be negatively impacting single men's chances at a relationship

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1. Dating Apps

It's a numbers game, y'all. There are more men using dating apps than women, so women have a better advantage in being more selective about whom they respond to.

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2. Relationship Standards

This right here may be the most ironic point. Straight women have finally reached the point where they no longer *need* to be in a relationship with just any man they can get.

Women now have the ability to provide for themselves; they can obtain their own line of credit and pay for their own housing, transportation, and food. Gone are the days when women were solely reliant on a man to provide while being forced to stay at home.

Men no longer benefit from being a complete dumpster fire of a human and still getting a wife. This leads us to the next point.

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3. Skills Deficits

Straight up, men have a significant deficiency in relationship skills. And it's not necessarily all their fault; many adult men today were raised in a time when boys/men showing emotions and communicating their wants and needs was frowned upon.

"Boys don't cry," "real men don't do X, Y, or Z," and all that B.S. has literally stunted the emotional growth and capability of several generations of men.

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It's not all bad news, though

Dating apps are becoming more advanced, leading to more promising connections when a match is made.

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Men can make themselves more appealing by doing the work

Going to therapy is the most beneficial thing anyone can do, whether or not you think you "need" it. Regularly attending therapy, even as maintenance, can do wonders for your mental health and overall well-being.

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This may be a great opportunity in society to evolve romantic relationships

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Men have to be willing to step up to make this change

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Honestly, thank goodness women are starting to realize that they would be happier by themselves and are beginning to stop wasting their time on people who don’t deserve it. Heck, there have been studies that show men benefit more from heterosexual relationships than women do.

Marriage can improve the overall lifestyle of men, lowering their risks of certain diseases and benefitting their careers. This generally leads them to have healthier, happier, and longer lives compared to single men.

Women, on the other hand, tend to suffer in inequitable marriages, where both partners may work, but domestic tasks, like household chores and childcare, still largely fall upon women to complete. This likely explains why nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

There have even been studies suggesting that single, childless women are the happ...

That framing is already setting off plenty of debate.

Twitter was ready to roast straight men, because when are they not?

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Maybe if they knew how to process and talk about their feelings, they wouldn't hurt so much

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Just a theory

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Concrete proof that women raising their standards WORKS

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And it gets even messier with an OP who adopted a cat against her partner’s wishes.

Being in a heterosexual relationship is more beneficial for the male partner

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Women are just doing what they were told

That's a sad realization

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The number of men on dating apps has made it easier for women to be more selective

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The news of the article even made it over to TikTok

James Doonquah made an excellent video about the article.

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You can read the transcript of the 76-second video

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And you can watch the full video below:

His viewers readily agreed with him

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The happiest people are those who are NOT responsible for taking care of other people

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She found peace outside of a relationship

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Cishet men need to start bringing more than just the "bare minimum"

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It's not worth it to settle for anything less

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There are definitely people in this world who can bring you the same peace and happiness you have while being single, and you deserve to have that person

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Of homicides involving a woman, over half were committed by a male partner

Fact source

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Back in the good ol' days when women had no other choice

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I wish I could give her a hug

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Meanwhile, single cishet women are living their best lives

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James wasn't the only TikToker who had thoughts about the article

"Men are quite literally going to be dying alone"

This user took advantage of a negging video to help make a point about the article

If straight men really want to change the trajectory of the looming rise of singledom, they need to take a hard look inward and address their “skills deficit.” They must genuinely put in the work on themselves and strengthen their mental and emotional health while honing their communication skills.

What are your thoughts on the article and the benefits/disadvantages of marriage for straight men and women? Let us know in the comments section below, and be sure to share this with your friends.

The internet clearly had a lot to say about that one.

Keep the drama going, see why this lonely woman adopted a puppy against her partner’s wishes.