Redditor's Wife Disapproves of Their Daughter's Clothes and Made Her Cry; Now He's Doubting His Choices

Associating specific clothes with gender is normal for us due to how society molds our perceptions. Unfortunately, this trait has been passed down from generation to generation. 

Even though things have been changing in recent years thanks to advocates and gender-bending individuals, judgment still prevails among adults, especially parents, who then try to instill these beliefs in their children.

Girls can’t wear boys' clothes and vice versa; that’s their rule. If you break it, people are bound to talk. 

However, if you think about it, clothes don’t really have genders; it is society that assigns which clothes belong to whom. A fact that many parents forget, resulting in them forcing their kids to wear things they don't even want.

Kids are freer to grow into their best selves if they feel comfortable in what they wear. This comfort might also give them confidence during those awkward phases, and if you remember yours, you know how difficult they can be. 

A parent Redditor posted in the subreddit ‘AITAH’ about getting scolded for taking his daughter shopping for clothes. The clothes he chose were from the boys' section, which his wife disapproved of, leading to a fight between them.

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OP Described the Difference in His Daughters' Clothing Preferences

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Instead of taking his daughter to shop in the girls' section, he took her to the boys' section so she could find something she liked

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His wife clearly disapproved, and after commenting, his daughter went to her room crying

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So it begs the question: who really was the a**hole in this situation?

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Redditors pointed out why it’s sometimes better to shop in the boys'/men's section

MoireMax

Yeah, what is it with those fake pockets they put on women’s pants?

Grumpy_bugger

Women, like men, come in all shapes and sizes, so it’s understandable that not all women’s clothes would be a good fit

surfaholic15

OP is lucky that his daughter already knows what she wants, and it all depends on what they’ll be comfortable with

Hot-Trash-6764

This mom can confirm that it’s a better choice to let kids choose what they like to wear; it makes them happier

Morgue-Rat

There are many parents who support what their kids want to feel comfortable in and are confused about...

riskytisk

why OP was so strict about implementing specific clothing choices

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riskytisk

They’re going to be cute either way, even if all they want to wear are Star Wars shirts

Tigerzombie

If their clothes protect them, that should be the only thing that matters

lastcall4coffee

Maybe the wife will think twice next time and listen to her daughter

PrideofCapetown

The mom might subconsciously favor their other daughter, in addition to it just being about what Lily feels

RexJacobus

Their relationship would definitely head for the worse if it continues like this

Steamedfrog

Gender isn’t the only rule that should apply to how you want to dress yourself

iMOONiCORN

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iMOONiCORN

A Little Insight

iMOONiCORN

Parents share the different things their kids want to wear, and some of them are crazy, but it’s fun

GeekyMom42

An Accessory to Pair Well with Those Outfits

AlasAntigone

A happy kid is better than having a child who throws tantrums and resents you because you couldn’t let them make a choice that wouldn’t harm them

asahiyuy

If you state the facts, OP made his kid feel okay, while his wife made their daughter cry with a snarky comment

deagh

In the end, the majority of the votes went to OP’s wife being the a**hole and not him

NUT-me-SHELL

The ‘Lily’s’ of this world rallied to share their stories to ensure that...

PNKAlumna

let OP know that what he’s doing is okay

PNKAlumna

It’s better to be by your kids’ side than against them in the world

owl_duc

No matter what age or gender, if you are protected and comfortable in the clothes you wear, then that should be fine. It should actually be the priority, and that should also be passed on to your kids.

Of course, there’s a rule for events, but in your everyday life, it’s better to be yourself. Society already has a lot of ‘norms,’ and not all of them fit each and every person.

Do you think OP is in the wrong? We’d love to hear your opinion in the comments.