Woman's Boyfriend Asks Her To Cook A 4-Hour Meal But Forgets To Mention That She's Not Invited To The Dinner With His Friends

Some dates go off the rails over something small, and this one started with a meal that took four hours to make. A young woman on Reddit said she and her boyfriend both loved cooking, so when he asked her to help prepare dinner, she thought it was a sweet way to spend time together.

Instead, the plan turned awkward fast. After shopping for ingredients and getting ready to cook, she learned the food was really for his friends, and she was not invited to sit down and eat with them.

What should have been a shared dinner turned into a very personal slight, and the misunderstanding left her questioning everything.

OP's date was apparently having some friends over, and while OP would help him cook, she was not invited to the dinner.

OP was quiet after learning this because she was understandably upset. She was looking forward to cooking good food with him and eating together after their disastrous date.

OP said she felt stupid and unimportant for thinking they were going to eat together. The guy was also irritated with OP for making assumptions that she was invited to his dinner (which he never mentioned).

He was also annoyed that OP became distant and quiet after hearing the information. OP said she was upset for not being informed that she was not invited to eat the food she was going to cook.

She acknowledged that she should communicate better when she's upset about something instead of avoiding it. However, she still feels that the guy should have given her all the facts about the meal and his dinner plans before inviting her to cook but not eat.

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Is OP wrong for assuming she was invited to dinner after cooking the meal? Read her full story below:

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So, fast forward:

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"I felt stupid and unimportant."

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That was the moment the whole plan changed.

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"He is normally a great person." (Does anyone have a bridge to sell OP?)

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OP said they didn't end up cooking together, and they're not really "together-together." They've been seeing each other but not exclusively.

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He's also not hiding her from his friends since she has met some of them and enjoyed their company.

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He deliberately misled OP into believing she was invited to a meal that she would be cooking and then got mad at her for misunderstanding something he never mentioned? GURL.

junkfile19

He should have asked clearly; that's on him. OP being upset is also valid. She may have had issues communicating why, but she was entitled to her feelings.

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Since it's an open relationship, this is also a possibility. But if they were honest with each other, why did he not mention that?

Mirvb

This is also like the roommate who refused to share her cooking with her new partner.

It wasn't even a factor, OP says.

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Could he be using OP's cooking skills?

sharktoothsoup7

This clarification from OP was downvoted to hell by other redditors.

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Anyone in the same situation would have assumed the same thing.

Arc_Sodium

His gaslighting made OP feel crazy.

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As if it was you who was in the wrong.

PlantMomaJ

Unless you're paid, then what OP assumed was correct.

Miabxo

This comparison is perfect!

NewtLevel

Shame on you, OP's date!

Marzipan_civil

Therefore, OP's date is an...

_lainan

Dump him! Immediately!

karigan_g

He probably would have acted like it was hard work to make the amazing food.

stop_spam_calls

If he wanted a favor, he should have asked clearly, and all this would have been avoided.

stop_spam_calls

He was definitely exploiting OP's love for cooking.

fox13fox

How about you do this free labor for me so we can chalk up last night as a bad date? No matter how you frame it, he's just a jerk.

lihzee

Informing OP while at the grocery store was probably a slip-up.

BellaSquared

Fact: OP deserves someone or multiple someones better than this guy.

Panther-Turtle

Shady indeed.

retro-orange

He's trying to evade responsibility over a technicality that he never explicitly invited OP. Then, he got mad when she assumed she could eat the food she cooked. How did this make sense to him?

Ducky818

Unless OP is his personal chef, then his reasoning doesn't make sense.

tuff_gong

It's a good thing that this wasn't a conventional monogamous relationship. OP has a better chance of leaving this guy should she want to.

There's no reason for her to think that she was in the wrong here. The guy she was dating was too good at making her feel at fault that she started to doubt herself; we echo the call: dump him, OP!

Wait, see how the chef roommate exploded after a last-minute cooking date cancellation, when she canceled to help a friend.