Spoiled Cousin Brags About Her Husband's Salary From His New Job Without Knowing She Was Talking To His Boss Who Happened To Be Her Cousin's Fiancé

Some family members can turn every conversation into a competition, and Kat sounds like one of them. OP has spent years watching her cousin brag, compare, and act superior, so it was only a matter of time before that attitude caused trouble.

Now Kat has married Henry, and the bragging has shifted from wedding talk to his new job and salary. The awkward part is that OP is engaged to Chris, one of Henry's bosses, which means Kat has been talking big to exactly the wrong person.

By the time a family birthday party rolled around, the stage was set for a very uncomfortable surprise. Read on.

Kat was bragging to OP about how much money her husband Henry was making in his new job

Henry, like a good husband, chimed in and said they were already planning to buy their first house together. Kat asked what OP's fiancé did for a living.

OP shared that he was an engineer as well and that he gets paid pretty well, but OP intentionally didn't disclose which company Chris was working for. Kat smiled, nodded, and said she understood that OP was embarrassed and wanted to keep Chris's job a secret.

That ended their interaction quickly until it was time to leave. As OP and Chris were leaving the party, Kat pulled OP aside and told her that if they ever needed help with the wedding, OP shouldn't hesitate to talk to her and Henry.

Two days later, OP received a furious message from Kat. She was angry that OP didn't tell her that Chris was one of Henry's bosses.

Henry saw Chris at their office. Chris asked Henry to tell Kat that she was sweet to offer them help with their wedding, but he and OP didn't need it.

Henry and Kat were embarrassed by this new information. Kat said they never would have offered if OP had told them where Chris was working.

OP and Chris laughed over the ridiculousness of the situation, but Kat felt differently. She said it was OP's duty to inform her and Henry about Chris's job.

When OP failed to do that, she blindsided them. She shared all of this and more in their family's group chat, where many people chose Kat's side.

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Was OP an a**hole for omitting that Chris was Henry's boss and letting her cousin Kat run her mouth off? Read her full story below:

Forsaken_Drama1789

"We weren't close as kids."

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(They hadn't met face-to-face yet.)

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"She smiled and nodded."

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"Two days later..."

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Petty people praised OP for how gracefully she handled the situation instead of giving Kat a taste of her own medicine

Fine_Prune_743

As for why Henry didn't notice he was at the same party as him...

Aggressive-Fudge5759

Also, the cousin who learned about her sister’s secret wedding plans had major fallout.

... they have not met yet because Henry has been dealing with one of the other bosses

Forsaken_Drama1789

Kat, you better read this if you want to know how much Chris outranks your husband

HeronymusBosch

Chris does not deal with new hires and focuses on leading projects

Forsaken_Drama1789

Now it's time to formulate OP's response to the family group chat

LimitlessMegan

OP can also reply with a subtle dig

wilie345

OP can reply in a way that gives no room for Kat to take the moral high ground

infiniZii

Some say OP shouldn't apologize at all and should say something to put an end to Kat's behavior once and for all

Cat_got_ya_tongue

Ah, the old "compare to despair" scenario. Kat created this internal ranking system herself, and if she feels bad, it's her fault.

Facetunethis

Chris could have answered Kat's dig during the party where they were all equals instead of making a quip at the office where the dynamics are different

ExcellentPatience298

Based on her tattling in the family group chat, we doubt that Kat learned her lesson

misdirected_asshole

In case Kat is willing to learn and is reading this, be careful of what you say, Kat, because it's not so easy to take it back

Loveisaredrose

Comparing yourself to other people serves no purpose other than satisfying your overblown ego. When the illusion shatters, you have no one else to blame but yourself.

Or you can blame your cousin the way Kat did. We wonder what kind of thoughts were running through her mind when she convinced herself OP was in the wrong here. We'd really love to know.

Want the boundary lesson too? See why I excluded my dishonest cousin from family events.