19-Year-Old Raised By His Brother And His Husband Meets His Girlfriend's Homophobic Parents, Walks Away The Second They Start Spewing Hate
His girlfriend told him he was rude, but his dads love him even more for it.
In an ideal world, people wouldn't judge others for who they love. Despite making considerable progress, we are still far from achieving true equality.
OP (original poster) faced this harsh reality recently when he met his girlfriend's parents for the first time. OP is 19 years old and has been raised by his older gay brother and his husband after their parents died in a car accident when OP was young.
He loves his brother and brother-in-law, and OP says they are the best dads anyone could ask for. They did their absolute best to raise OP and care for him as any parent would.
OP has been dating Sara for two months, and he likes her a lot. Sara has met OP's dads, and everything was fine; in short, she didn't exhibit any homophobia. On the other hand, Sara hasn't made any attempts to introduce OP to her parents.
That is, until a few weeks ago when Sara told OP her parents were visiting her and she wanted him to meet them for the first time. There was a condition to this meeting: OP couldn't talk about his brother and his husband raising him because her parents wouldn't like it.
He said he could do that and lie about his brother. Finally, Sara seemed to understand where OP was coming from, and she told her parents about OP having two dads.
On the day of the meeting, the group went to a steakhouse for dinner, and everything seemed fine until Sara's parents began talking about OP's childhood.
They started commenting about "how nice of a young man OP is despite the shortcomings of his home life." They also said, "how OP's life couldn't have been easy living with his perverted brother and his 'friend.'
Sara's parents were also glad that OP didn't pick up any "bad habits." OP was so angry that he saw red; he slammed $40 to pay for his meal and walked out.
Sara called OP multiple times about his "overreaction," saying he shouldn't have been so emotional about it since she informed him beforehand that her parents wouldn't like it. She was also mad at him for being rude and leaving her at the restaurant.
OP told his brother and brother-in-law about what happened, and they loved him more for it. However, they agreed that he was rude and could have handled the situation better.
Worried_Usual_3799Do you think OP is the a**hole? You can read his original post below:
Worried_Usual_3799
"They always did their best to take care of me."
Worried_Usual_3799
"She finally wanted me to meet them."
Worried_Usual_3799
"She told her parents herself."
Worried_Usual_3799
"I saw red."
Worried_Usual_3799
She even wants OP to feel bad about standing up for his dads.
little_gnora
Sara is wrong on all accounts. What happened was not OP's fault in any way.
DimiBlue
He owes them nothing and gave them no ammunition to badmouth him.
Intelligent-Store321
The chair would follow in OP's footsteps, to be honest.
Intelligent-Store321
OP, sing this to the tune of "Be Our Guest" from Beauty and The Beast while walking towards the exit.
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OP is 10 out of 10. His dads are right to be proud.
W0lfprud3
Titanium spine, this man has.
blackandbluegirltalk
She didn't even have to say anything; she could have just followed OP, and that would have been enough support, but she couldn't even muster the courage to do that.
MaleficentAd1861
If she tolerates homophobia, then she's one of them.
Here_for_tea_
Reddit suggested some worthy replies to Sara's messages...
chop1125
... the replies are awesome, and OP should definitely use their words against them.
justchillinghbu87
You owe them nothing, OP.
poeadam
It's not up to you to enlighten adults about their backward beliefs.
Neshgaddal
What's not connecting here, Sara?
GlenCocosCandyCane
She expected OP to be fine with whatever they were saying because she warned him before meeting them. How is that rational?
PatioGardener
OP's parents must be proud of how well they raised him.
MattFoley00
Tolerating bigotry is not an opinion; it's declaring support for them, and no, we will not respect your 'opinion.'
SportsPhotoGirl
Diversity is what makes the world a better place. Bigots cannot wrap their heads around the idea that people can be whoever they want to be and love who they choose to love.
Their intolerance and close-mindedness are not our problems anymore. It's their own fault that their lives are so dull they feel the need to discredit and comment on beautiful families like OP's.
