Deadbeat Parents Leave Their 3 Younger Children Under The Care Of Their 25-Year-Old Son And Threaten To Get Custody Years Later

Life really is a lottery, even from the start. Everyone is born under different circumstances that are beyond our control.

This gamble means not all of us are born to parents who will love and care for us. In those unfortunate cases, we look to our immediate family for support, and nobody else understands the situation better than our siblings who are going through the same thing.

Such was the case for this 25-year-old brother who shared their family story. OP's (original poster) parents got divorced a few years ago.

His dad left a month later to live with his lover, and then OP's mom showed up at his house. OP's three younger siblings were with her, and she asked if they could stay at OP's house for a few days while she settled in with her new boyfriend.

Three years later, OP and his three younger siblings are all still living together in his house. OP has taken full responsibility for them while his parents visit the kids once a week and contribute a little for child support.

A few weeks ago, OP's brother turned 15 years old, and he decided to throw a birthday party for him. Their parents bought cake and soda, but OP still invited them, considering they are still the parents.

He stipulated that they could come as long as they didn't bring their new spouses. The birthday came, and to OP's dismay, not only did they bring their new spouses, but their parents also brought their stepchildren.

OP didn't say anything in the spirit of not ruining his brother's party. According to him, if his brother has no issues with it, then OP will keep his opinions to himself since it's not his party anyway.

OP's other request is to take a family photo of just him and his siblings.

His parents made it all about them. His mom said his stepson should be in the photo as well, then the dad piped in that his stepdaughter and pregnant new wife should be included as well, saying they are part of the family.

OP felt shocked by all this nonsense, and he just blew up. He told his parents they were "selfish, irresponsible, narcissistic, terrible parents," and their requests were out of the question since those kids are not our family and will never be.

He also yelled that his dad should get a vasectomy and shouldn't be allowed to have any more kids. OP didn't stop there; he also said that if they thought he was going to raise their unborn child, they were wrong.

OP's mom and his dad's new wife started to cry, and OP kicked them out of the house. They also accused OP of turning his siblings against them and tried to take them by force.

However, OP's siblings refused, and now the parents are saying they will take OP to court to get custody. OP shared that in their country, the kids have the final say about whom they want to live with.

All of OP's siblings want to stay with him. OP is starting to doubt if he said and did the right thing after his grandparents told him he should give up custody of his siblings and let their parents be responsible again.

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OP's full account of the event can be read below:

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"Family"

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"And if you think I'll raise this one, too... you're wrong!"

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Redditors quickly made sure that OP knew how much of a great brother he is.

TheMobyDicks

He is in no way the a**hole, and he should definitely look into suing the parents.

lisalef

We wonder why OP hasn't already done this.

greenswizzlewooster

If OP were to be petty, he'd take everything they have.

amethystdreams21

They weren't even his responsibilities, but he stepped up and took care of his young siblings for three years without their help.

tangerinedreamery

They really don't want custody of the kids; they just want to punish OP, says this Redditor.

Forsaken_Distance777

They only said they were leaving the kids to OP for a few days, and here we are three years later.

National-Platypus144

Can we also attend the proceedings?

bloseja

OP painted a painfully accurate picture.

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How can you act all high and mighty when you've abandoned all of your kids under the care of the person you're looking down on?

Chanitae29

As it turns out, they didn't even raise OP. It was his late grandma who took care of him and left him the house.

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They probably love it when the kids are young and don't know any better; hence, they worship them.

TotallyWonderWoman

If it's an established pattern, chances are the new baby will also be abandoned after a few years.

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They love their stepchildren yet all but forgot about the children they have together.

Coco_Dirichlet

Apparently, they are trying to make up for years of neglect by visiting more in the past few weeks. Good luck with that.

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This is a good strategy for when OP takes them to court to sue for custody.

Maleficent-Yam4650

That's definitely not enough money to raise, clothe, feed, and educate three children.

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OP provided us an uplifting update about the pending court case against their birth parents:

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Like the good brother he is, OP has documented everything and will likely take custody of his siblings.

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"But here I am."

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Hopefully, in his next update, OP will share that he is now officially his siblings' legal guardian.

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On the surface, this may read like a feel-good story where all the children live happily ever after with their admittedly awesome brother. But if we examine the situation closely, these kids, including OP, are the victims of neglect by their birth parents.

They will need therapy to deal with all the heavy emotions that come with the years of trauma they've all been through. Fortunately, the young kids have OP to provide stability, and it looks like OP has found a support system in the form of his girlfriend's family.