Dealing with a Neighbors Barking Dog: Would Hiring a Trainer Make Me the Jerk?

Nothing wakes you up like a dog that won’t stop barking, especially when you’re the one trying to sleep through it. In this apartment complex, one woman’s “just what dogs do” excuse has turned into a daily battle for peace.

A 30-year-old woman works night shifts and relies on daytime rest to function, but her neighbor’s dog has been barking for hours on end. She approached the neighbor, explained how it’s wrecking her work-from-home setup and her sleep, and got brushed off. Now she’s considering hiring a dog trainer to stop the barking, not punish the animal, but she’s worried the neighbor will see it as an invasion or an overreach.

And that’s where the real drama starts: trying to fix the noise without turning it into a neighborhood feud.

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I (30F) live in a cozy apartment complex, and my neighbor (40sF) has a lovely but incredibly loud dog. The barking has become incessant, going on for hours, disrupting my work-at-home setup, and affecting my sleep.

I work night shifts and desperately need daytime rest. I've tried talking to my neighbor about the noise, but she brushes it off, claiming it's 'just what dogs do.' She's unwilling to address the problem.

I'm at my wit's end and considering hiring a professional dog trainer to help curb the barking issue. It's not about punishing the dog but finding a solution for all of us.

But I'm torn. Would I be the jerk for taking this step without her consent?

She might see it as an invasion of her privacy or an overreach. So, WIBTA for seeking outside help to resolve this ongoing noise problem?

She already tried the polite route, telling her neighbor about the hours of barking, and got the “it’s just what dogs do” brush-off.

Comment from u/Reddit_Ranter1992

NTA - Your neighbor's lack of consideration is disturbing your peace. You've tried talking, so getting external help is reasonable. It's about your well-being too.

Now she’s stuck doing the math between her sleep getting wrecked and her neighbor’s likely reaction to outside involvement.

Comment from u/sleepy_coffee_luvr

ESH - It's tough. Your neighbor should address the noise, but hiring a trainer without her input might escalate tensions. Communication is key here.

This is similar to the neighbor with the rooster keeping a sick dog awake, and whether returning it makes OP the jerk.

Comment from u/LoudLaughingLlama

NTA - You need your rest, and the constant barking is unacceptable. Your neighbor's dismissal is inconsiderate. Don't suffer silently; take steps to find a solution.

The comments split fast, with some saying she’s NTA for protecting her rest, while others warn it could inflame things if her neighbor feels blindsided.

Comment from u/doglover22

NTA - Barking dogs can be a real nuisance. You've tried to talk it out, but if your neighbor isn't receptive, seeking professional help is a reasonable next step. Your well-being matters too.

The question becomes whether getting help for the barking will bring peace, or if it turns her into the villain in the apartment complex drama.</p>

Comment from u/PuzzlePirate99

NTA - Your neighbor's dog is disturbing your peace, and you've tried addressing it directly. Seeking a dog trainer's help is a reasonable approach to find a middle ground. Your comfort matters too.

How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.

She might not be the jerk, but she could still end up living next to the barking forever if she picks the wrong timing.

Wondering about the neighbor who brushed off the noise, check out the debate over hiring a trainer for an unruly dog despite complaints.