Did I Do Wrong by Not Allowing Dads Wedding Speech?

Are you the antagonist in this situation for not allowing your father to give a speech at your wedding? The original poster (28F) tied the knot recently, but her father (58M) has a history of alcohol abuse and erratic behavior.

The decision whether to let him speak on her big day was not an easy one. The relationship between the OP and her father has been strained due to past actions that have caused family turmoil.

Despite promises to behave, the father's actions at the wedding reception raised concerns. The OP had to make a difficult choice when her father insisted on giving a speech in an inebriated state.

Some Reddit users support the OP's decision, citing the need to prioritize a peaceful celebration over potential chaos. Others feel that denying the father a chance to speak may have strained their already fragile relationship.

The conflicting opinions highlight the complexities of family dynamics and setting boundaries, especially during significant life events.

Original Post

I (28F) recently got married to the love of my life in a small, intimate ceremony. My father (58M) has a history of alcohol a***e and unpredictable behavior when he drinks.

Although we had a peaceful wedding day, leading up to it was stressful. For background, my father and I have a strained relationship due to his past actions that have hurt our family.

My mother divorced him years ago, and he has been in and out of rehab. Leading up to the wedding, my father promised he would behave and not drink.

I was hesitant, but I tentatively agreed to let him attend. On the day of the wedding, things went smoothly until the reception.

During dinner, I noticed my father sneaking sips of alcohol. I confronted him, and he denied it, but the smell was unmistakable.

As the night went on, he grew increasingly belligerent and loud. When it was time for speeches, he demanded to give one.

Given his state, I told him it wasn't a good idea. He became angry and started causing a scene, accusing me of being controlling and unfair.

My husband stepped in and calmed him down, but the damage was done. We had to ask him to leave, and he did so in a huff.

Now, my father and some family members are upset with me for embarrassing him and not letting him speak. They say I should have let him have his moment, especially on such an important day.

My father has been giving me the silent treatment, and I feel conflicted. So AITA?

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