New Mom Says ‘No’ After Her Dad And Sister Ask To Move In Following House Fire
A mother chooses her child over familiar guilt.
Ten years ago, OP made a hard choice to leave her dad and sister’s home for good.
She moved in with her boyfriend during college, eventually married him, and spent years in therapy unpacking the chaos she grew up with.
Now, she’s a new mom. She’s running on three hours of sleep, and overwhelmed by her new responsibility.
Worst of all, despite the fact that she and her husband have jobs, they’re still deep in survival mode.
Recently, an emergency hit her extended family. Apparently, a neighbor’s house near her dads’ caught fire and burned to the ground.
Although their place didn’t get consumed, the damage was serious: Melted siding, cracked windows, smoke everywhere. Unfortunately for them, utilities were shut off, insurance got involved, and no one knows how long repairs will take.
It doesn’t just end there, OP’s dad has serious medical issues and relies on equipment. If he stayed with OP, he’d need to be on the main floor, which is also where the baby spends most of the day.
The baby is at the stage where everything goes in their mouth, including small objects that could be dangerous. There’s also the bathroom situation.
Her dad struggles with hygiene and organization, and OP worries about health risks around her infant, as well as becoming responsible for caring for her father on top of her baby.
At the moment, OP’s dad has been temporarily placed in the hospital, while her sister has been staying with her. But her sister hasn’t been the best companion in the home, as OP has complained about her being rude and selfish.
OP and her husband finally had enough and gave them a two week timeline to sort themselves out.
While OP’s husband’s mind is set, she’s been feeling guilty about kicking her family out now that they need her the most.
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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“NTA, I wouldn't have let them stay at all. They can get a hotel room.”
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“Perhaps the two weeks to secure housing will help your sister grow up. Wish her well and hold your boundary.”
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“NTA...Allowing them to stay would negatively impact your wellbeing and your marriage.”
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“Insurance should be taking care of them, not you. NTA for saying no.”
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“You need you look out for you and yours first. That is you your husband and child. They are adults.”
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“NTA this is a good time to reach out to a social worker.”
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OP isn’t saying she doesn’t care; she’s saying she can’t carry the burden from her family anymore, especially with a newborn depending on her.
Sometimes help has a limit, even when guilt is loud and the situation feels unfair.
Do you think OP did the right thing by setting a two-week boundary, or should family always come first in moments like this?
Share your thoughts in the comments.
