Check Out These Two Couples Who Decided To End Their Marriages So They Could All Live Together

The concept of ethical non-monogamy is not new, but some do push the boundaries of what modern relationships may look like. It's likely that relationships themselves predate the idea of more than two people being in a relationship.

However, in recent years, a growing number of people have felt at ease questioning their partners about the potential for expanding their relationship while remaining faithful to one another. New laws have also been influenced by this change.

The first multiple-partner domestic partnership ordinance was passed in 2023 in Somerville, Massachusetts. This law addressed the fact that individuals in polyamorous partnerships were not afforded the same rights as married couples, such as health insurance for their companions.

One couple that made the decision to explore these novel options was Rachel and Kyle Wright, a married couple. In 2019, after being married for a while, they decided to delve into the world of polyamory.

New York-based marriage and family therapist Rachel, 34, told Insider that she and Kyle had been interested in polyamory ever since they first started dating. She continued, saying:

"But because our society is so mono-normative, I didn’t really have the courage to say, 'Yes, this is what I want,' and neither did Kyle."

Two couples who had divorced decided to live together and found satisfaction in their newfound togetherness

They threw themselves into exploring this path when they did. They downloaded the Feeld app, which is intended for individuals seeking a variety of dating encounters, and they tuned into podcasts on the topic.

Rachel, who is bisexual, revealed that Kyle also came out as bisexual publicly once they started dating other people.

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She added, "I found so much joy in watching Kyle blossom and felt more and more like myself. It was just so fun." The pandemic put a brief stop to their plans, but they continued dating virtually.

As a result, they finally met Yair Lenchner and Ashley Giddens, a married couple. The four bonded quickly, and after the lockdown restrictions were lifted, they began going on socially distanced dates before merging their pods.

Despite being platonic, Kyle and Yair's connection developed with each hangout, which Rachel described as a "whirlwind." The four decided to live together about eighteen months after they initially met.

They established a household chore plan and adopted a puppy, living as a true family. They understood that their marriages weren't serving them in the real world, even though they were in what they perceived as a strong polycule.

Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy

Dr. Esther Perel, a renowned couples therapist, emphasizes the importance of communication and transparency in non-traditional relationships. She often states, 'The quality of your relationship is determined by how well you communicate, not just the structure of it.'

In her work, she highlights that ethical non-monogamy can provide opportunities for personal growth and exploration when approached thoughtfully. However, it requires partners to regularly check in about their feelings and boundaries, fostering a nurturing environment.

This practice can help couples navigate feelings of jealousy and insecurity, leading to deeper connections and understanding among all involved.

They took turns going on date nights at each other's houses

Executive Director of the Chosen Family Law Center and attorney Diana Adams, who has been at the forefront of multiple-partner domestic partnership regulations, was the person they turned to for help.

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The two couples chose to file for divorce in order to get one step closer to being recognized as a polycule, even though New York hasn't yet passed legislation of a similar nature. As a result, each of them could be mentioned separately in a cohabitation agreement.

Regrettably, Kyle and the foursome have parted ways. Together, they concluded that it was a mutual decision.

Rachel said on Instagram that he "wants to do some work on himself and figure out who he is." It all ended with:

"Is this permanent? I don’t know. Maybe," she said. "But, for now, and for the foreseeable future, Kyle will be living in Brooklyn, and Yair, Ash, and I are going to stay at our house."

Dr. Sue Johnson, a pioneer in Emotionally Focused Therapy, suggests that relationships thrive on emotional safety and connection. In her research, she notes that couples often feel trapped in traditional roles that don't serve their needs, leading to dissatisfaction.

She advocates for creating new relationship models that prioritize emotional intimacy over rigid structures. Couples should practice open dialogue about their desires and needs, which can foster an environment where all parties feel valued. Regular discussions can alleviate misunderstandings and strengthen relationships among those involved.

Healing Approaches & Techniques

The shift towards non-traditional relationship structures, as seen in these couples' stories, reflects a broader cultural change. Experts like Dr. Ian Kerner emphasize that navigating these relationships can be complex but ultimately rewarding when approached with care. He notes, 'Exploring new dynamics can lead to enriched emotional connections if partners are willing to engage in honest dialogue.'

By prioritizing communication and understanding, couples can forge deeper bonds and create fulfilling arrangements that resonate with their values and desires. It’s essential to regularly evaluate the relationship’s health while remaining open to change.