Husband Throws a Fit After Wife Goes to the Doctor Appointment He Canceled Behind Her Back So She Can Host His Dinner Party

If you're married and your partner has a health emergency, you're supposed to be the first person to show concern and care for them. I don't know about you, but to me, that's not a controversial opinion.

A Reddit user's marriage was tested when a similar situation arose in their household. OP (original poster) is 34 years old, while her dear husband is 37.

She shared that she normally loves to host parties and dinners for their friends. OP has taken this responsibility as part of her duties as a stay-at-home mom.

Her husband's work is stressful and demanding. OP knows and appreciates all of his efforts, so much so that she never implies that it's also tough to care for their home and their children 24/7.

OP has been having issues with her eyes lately. Her eyes always look reddish, and she admits that they are painful, but she's downplaying it because she has too much cleaning to do after the holidays.

She was hoping that the pain would go away eventually, but that didn't happen. Someone advised her to book a doctor's appointment, and she did that, unable to put it off any longer.

Her loving husband said that he planned to have his friends over on the date of OP's appointment. She countered that she needed to go to the doctor that day to check her eyes.

Dear husband said that she should reschedule since her eyes look okay anyway. OP said no, she can't do that, and her husband just nodded.

On the day of the appointment, OP's husband saw her dressed and ready to leave. He asked where she was going, and OP replied that she was going to the doctor.

The husband responded that there was no need for that since he had sent the clinic an email to cancel her appointment and suggested that she could reschedule for the following week.

OP asked him why he did that, and the husband said that he needed her there so she could host dinner for his friends. He continued that OP shouldn't be surprised because she knew of his plans beforehand.

Our OP got mad at him and yelled, "Hell no!" She grabbed the laptop and sent the clinic an email asking if they could put her appointment back in, and they did.

The husband threw a tantrum, saying he had already invited his friends over and that OP shouldn't bail on him. OP asked him to postpone the dinner, but he said no, and that OP should cancel instead because it wasn't an emergency.

Steady-Sailing3898

OP says she can't cancel the appointment, and her husband got angrier, saying he won't drive her to the clinic.

OP called her sister to take her, and while waiting for her sister to arrive, OP had to listen to her husband's tantrum about OP's bad hosting skills.

She came home around 7 PM that night only to find their house empty. Dear husband called her later, whining about how she failed him and made him look bad to his friends.

OP's husband stayed out the whole night and came home the next day saying the same thing, adding that OP is manipulative, stubborn, and a bad host for bailing on him and his friends. He also swore he would never forget what she did.

You can read OP's story below:

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Red flags so big, they can be seen from the moon

CrystalQueen3000

This is how you should handle this manipulative situation

hbtfdrckbck

You are the one who should be upset, not him

hbtfdrckbck

He has to apologize, not you

hbtfdrckbck

Reconsider your relationship

hbtfdrckbck

Always, always be on the lookout for further abusive behaviors

hbtfdrckbck

We don't know the husband, but he does seem like the type

usernameemma

Hopefully, it's a good sign that she's questioning this behavior

Dark-Angel_452

OP's husband expects her to be waiting and ready for his commands at any moment

xpotential31

Telling and asking are two wildly different things

Steady-Sailing3898, metro-mtp

If the dinner with friends is so precious, why not host it at a fancy restaurant?

No-Distribution-9928

Don't justify it, OP! That's not what he meant at all; he meant what he said: his wants are more important than you or your health.

Steady-Sailing3898

OP hasn't answered any questions asking if her eyes are okay

Cardabella

A plan to leave ASAP when needed should be in place

Rtarara

He wants OP to be at his beck and call even when she's obviously unwell

No-Recognition3929

Eyes are more important than his dinner with the boys

tastystarbits

People who are used to abusive situations don't easily recognize how badly they are treated because they become accustomed to unhealthy situations daily. This is why OP is commendable for asking if the way her husband behaved is okay.

It's the first step of a long journey, but let's hope this is OP's wake-up call. Emergency or not, health should be prioritized over someone else's dinner plans.