Mom’s Story About Her Infant Pooping Portrays The Ugly Double Standard We Have For Parents

Constance Hall, a blogger and mother of four, recently shared a post that stirred up a lot of discussion. She recalled an anecdote that perfectly illustrates the double standards women face.

Whatever dads do, even the smallest thing, is always met with standing ovations, while moms receive a “nice try, but it needs improvement. Could you do it a little bit better?”

The world has progressed significantly, but it seems some people are still stuck in the past. Crying kids in the supermarket elicit frowns and comments like, “That woman should teach her kids better,” while a dad alone with crying kids receives sympathetic remarks like, “Poor man, all alone.” Facebook, Constance Hall

Constance recalls an incident when she tried to change her daughter’s diaper discreetly in the park when a woman approached her and began to judge her.

“I saw you changing your daughter's nappy; could you please use the change table next time?”

She replied, “There wasn’t one.”

The woman said, “There is; it’s in the disabled toilet, and that’s around the other corner.”

Constance responded, “Cool, she’s probably not due for another poop for about six hours, but I will act accordingly.”

She felt like a loser. The world went on.

It's hard to understand what was bothering this awful lady. The park is an open space; dogs, cats, and birds all poop there. Why can’t you change a diaper there?

But then, just a week after the incident, her husband did the same thing in the same park, and he immediately became a hero dad.

A group of women walked past; one said, “Aww, good dad!!! That’s what we like to see, get in there!”

Bill felt like a legend. The world went on.

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Why did people make Hall feel like a loser while her husband was hailed as a hero? Hall continued:

“I am used to being scrutinized for tasks that my husband is praised for.

I am accustomed to picking the kids up from school and receiving judgmental looks for being late, while Bill is welcomed with a red carpet and a 12-piece band praising him for his heroic appearance at school pickup.

That’s the way we, as a society, are; we place so much pressure on women to be perfect and selfless while setting low parenting expectations for men.

I am not saying to stop the praise. I love seeing Bill recognized for the things he does for our kids.

He is a good dad; why not celebrate him?

But let’s praise each other too. Let’s see a woman talking on the phone while pushing her pram and think, ‘Wow, she chose not to stay at home bidding on eBay and drinking straight vodka. She chose to come to the park and be a magnificent mom.’”

Unfortunately, this post is extremely relatable, as many women are facing the same issue.

Her post received more than 73k likes and was reshared over 5k times.

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Next time you see a mom struggling with her kids, try helping instead of judging.