Ending a Decade-Long Friendship: Giving Dating Advice That Backfired

A 28-year-old woman refused to let a “great at first” boyfriend slide, and it cost her a decade-long friendship. OP, 29F, has known Sarah, 28F, for over ten years, and they’ve always been the kind of friends who show up, no questions asked.

Then Sarah started dating Mike, and OP clocked some red flags fast. Instead of keeping it to herself, OP “gently” shared concerns and told Sarah to watch for the signs. Sarah took that to heart, confronted Mike, and suddenly everything went sideways.

Now Sarah is calling OP the reason her relationship imploded, and OP is stuck wondering if helping turned into meddling.

Original Post

So I'm (29F) and I've been friends with 'Sarah' (28F) for over a decade. We've always been there for each other through thick and thin.

Recently, Sarah started dating a guy 'Mike' who seemed great at first. However, I noticed some red flags that indicated he might not be treating her right.

I gently shared my concerns with Sarah, suggesting she keep an eye out. Soon after, Sarah confronted Mike based on my advice, and things went downhill fast.

He accused her of not trusting him and things got messy between them. Sarah was heartbroken and blamed me for the fallout.

Now, Sarah won't talk to me and says I ruined her relationship. I genuinely thought I was helping, but was I too involved in their relationship?

Should I apologize or stand by my advice? So, AITA?

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This also echoes the friend who asked for relationship advice and ended up blowing up their long-term relationship.

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OP noticed Mike’s red flags, then tried to steer Sarah toward “keeping an eye out” like this was just a casual heads-up.

Right after OP’s advice, Sarah confronted Mike, and the vibe shifted from “concern” to “accusation” in one conversation.

Mike flipped the script, accused Sarah of not trusting him, and the fallout hit OP’s friendship too, because Sarah blamed OP.

Now Sarah won’t talk to OP at all, even though OP genuinely believed the warning was coming from a place of care.

What would you do in this situation? Share your opinion in the comments.

Sarah might be done with Mike, but she’s also done with OP, and nobody wins that kind of breakup.

Wondering if you can be blamed for giving dating advice that backfired? Read this AITA where a best friend claims her dating advice made her feel unsupported.