This Husband Insists His Wife Stay Home With Their Kids So He Can Attend Her Brother’s Wedding Without Her

If you're in a relationship or have ever been in one, you will know that compromise is key (among other things) to happiness for both partners. However, compromise isn't always easy, and when one partner isn't willing to budge, things can become difficult.

Reddit user u/3465throw_away has experienced this with her husband firsthand. Recently, she made a post about a particular argument they have been having.

You see, the Reddit user's brother is getting married soon and is planning a child-free wedding. The thing is, her husband has a problem with babysitters and refuses to leave their kids in anyone else's care.

Instead, he insists that his wife should stay home with the kids while he attends the wedding by himself. Yep—he wants to attend her brother's wedding without her!

The woman explained that she is a stay-at-home mother and "doesn't go out much," so her husband's aversion to babysitters isn't usually much of an issue. But since her brother lives in another state and this is a special occasion for her family, it makes sense that if only one of them can attend, surely it should be her.

However, the Reddit user's husband disagrees. He says it should be him attending the wedding, and she will just have to deal with it.

u/3465throw_away took to Reddit to ask the community, "AITA?" Scroll down to read the story in full and see what people had to say.

This Reddit user asked, "AITA?" for refusing to miss her brother's wedding to stay home with the kids.

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You can read the story in full below.

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The Reddit user insists her husband helps out a lot with the kids.

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But when they received an invitation to her brother's child-free wedding, the argument started.

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Her husband dismissed her request to get a babysitter so that she could attend the wedding.

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He said she should make the "sacrifice" for the kids.

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He even accused her of being petty.

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He said she should think of it as a "business trip" that she didn't need to go to.

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He called her "selfish" and "spiteful."

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He tried to make her feel guilty for wanting to go.

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So, what do you think? Is she in the wrong here?

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Here's how people reacted.

People were quick to point out the husband's sense of entitlement.

And that HE should be the one to stay home with the kids if he refuses to get a babysitter.

One person labeled the husband "unhinged."

And another pointed out that the husband is just being controlling.

It's HER brother, after all.

And if anyone should have precedence, it's her!

Someone pointed out that it's messed up that she hasn't been allowed to go anywhere without her children for four years.

And another said the husband needs therapy.

The overall consensus? NTA!

“The key to a resolution becomes communication and the concept of picking your battles,” says relationship coach Jessica Brighton. “You need to have an extensive conversation to discuss your feelings and where each of you stands on the issue."

Jessica says that if compromise can't be reached, the only option may be to just let it go. "If you determine that you are still unable to find common ground, then a compromise and agreeing to disagree may be your best plan of action.”

“We all have to deal with negative issues and unpleasant situations in other avenues of our lives,” she said. “Why deal with one more in your personal life?"

Focusing on the good is paramount. "If you determine that the positives in your relationship outweigh the negatives, I suggest you embrace the positivity and happiness that your relationship brings you and focus less on the one negative issue,” she said.

If nothing else, it's important to be understanding of our partner's feelings and needs. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for someone is to compromise when we least want to.

What's your take on u/3465throw_away's situation? Is she being selfish, or is her husband the one in the wrong?